I am just letting you know of my upcoming workshop on how to “Embrace Your Sexual Rebirth” (in case you haven’t yet attended). This workshop is designed for singles, couples, what ever stage of Menopause you are in (or going to be in):

Embracing Your Sexual Rebirth: Sex During and After Menopause
Wednesday, August 26, 8-10 pm
$25 if pre-registered, $30 for drop-ins
Please call 415-522-5460 to reserve a seat.

Lots of people believe that menopause inevitably leads to a decline in a woman’s sexuality but it’s not necessarily so! While “the change” can leads to significant shifts in sexual response and desire, that doesn’t have to mean that sex is no longer satisfying for women or their partners. GV staffer Evie Abston will help you discover new ways to think about your sexuality and how to respond to the changes that you’re experiencing. She’ll give you lots of helpful information, lead you through some exercises that will help you tune in to you and your partner’s body, offer guidance to make navigating sex easier and much more. Whether you’ve been through menopause, are in the middle of it, or see it coming, this fun and informative workshop for women and men, singles and couples, will make it easier to find out how to turn menopause into a sexual rebirth, deeper pleasure and enhanced intimacy.

For the majority of customers that I have spoken to in the past, there are two major things that people seem to ask for assistance in: How to increase Vaginal lubrication and the big one, “how can I get my sex drive back?”

There are many factors that can cause low libido, it could be fluctuating hormones, a hectic lifestyle, feeling pressure that you are going through changes, or a combination of all three. When it happened to me-part of the lack of desire was yes, fluctuating hormones, but also a pressure I felt from a message I had that my husband would leave me if my sex drive was gone.

Because I felt comfortable sharing those fears with him, it actually brought us closer together because he was able to reassure me. And then he shared that he also does not have the same level of sex drive he did when he was in his 20’s. Sharing this gave us a new awareness and helped us to continue to build a stronger relationship.

The more I read about different aspects of Menopause, the more I find new ways to enhance my and other people lives in a positive way. Besides being a sex educator with Good Vibrations I am also an alternative care practitioner. Part of my path as alternative practitioner, has been to help Menopausal women find ways to deal with the fluctuating hormones and emotional upsets that seem to pop up in various degrees and times.  I have recently learned a form of acupressure that can relieve physical and emotional challenges. I started using this process on myself that have been keeping my sex drive on vacation. I did the process once and after working on the acupressure points in a series of two sets, I started feeling that little “flutter” of desire I used to get. It is a good tune up that I have started incorporating in my own self care in addition to my daily meditation..

I knew I was on to something wonderful.  In addition to the previous exercises we will learn in the workshop, I’ve decided to share this process on August 26th. It is an exercise to rev up your libido, or help with mood swings by using acupressure techniques. It is very helpful. It is something that you can learn in a very short time. I am going to have hand outs to give so you can continue to use it even after the workshop.

I know I have said this many times before, (I have menopausal memory, if I said it I probably forgot that I did), but there are so many resources for learning how to take charge of your self-care going through Menopause. You are not alone. You don’t have to suffer in silence the way my mother or your mother did. All you have to do is start talking and sharing your experiences. You will be pleasantly surprised how many people are going through the same thing or have gotten through it.

Why do I say people instead of women? Because when you are in a relationship, it isn’t only women who are having the challenges, the husbands and partners are going through it too. They want to support their spouse, but sometimes not sure how to do it. And it isn’t just because they can’t handle it or don’t want to address it. It was because of the loving spouses that started coming to me when I was working in my store and said that their wives or girlfriends were having problems but too shy to talk about it, that I decided to do these workshops in the first place. Sometimes it is because we women don’t want to even vocalize our fears of the changes going on in our bodies and our heads. We can’t even bring ourselves to utter the words.

But in order to make changes, you have to first acknowledge that there is something you can change. Many times it is the power of the fear that keeps us resisting to what we know we need to acknowledge. But let me tell you, once you can break through the wall of resistance to get to the heart of the matter, things do change. And when you have that “A-Ha” moment and there is utter release and an orgasmic level of joy you are experiencing, it is worth any minute of doubt or fear you keep inside. Just remember, even if you don’t say it, your body still feels your fear or anxiety. And that can keep that imploding energy to cause more upsets or dis-eases in your body. Once you surrender to accepting the willingness to change, it is like opening up the door to a new life. And isn’t that worth all the short months of anxiety to 30 or 40 more years of  freedom you will have –“Viva la Vive!”

Related at Good Vibrations:

Our Bodies, Ourselves: Menopause
Multi-Orgasmic Woman
Better Than I Ever Expected