Exploring those alter-egos hanging around behind-the-scenes in your erotic fantasies can be a fun and fulfilling way to uncover what turns you on. Even if you don’t feel totally ready yet to claim those desires, erotic fantasy play could give you a part to take on as you discover how to get deeper into your own sexual self.

When introducing a partner to your erotic imagination, it takes a bit of skill, patience, playfulness, intention, and affection to get there together. Feel free to linger in your solo sex play as you run your scenario in your own mind, testing out your roles and what you want to do, before you bring your lover into the game. It’s totally possible that there are a whole host of things that feel really amazing within the confines of your own bed and with your own hands, but that just aren’t so doable with someone else, or within the context of that relationship. That’s okay, and honestly, that’s why all your toys and stories can be such great tools in your exploration of sex.

There’s no pressure to bring your fantasies into the flesh right away, either. While playing on your own, you may hit upon a fantasy scene that you aren’t sure you want to act out physically, but really, really turns you on to just think and talk about. Rather than distance yourself from a hot idea that’s time hasn’t yet come completely, you can bring those “maybe not yet” fantasies into bed with your lover or partner as devastatingly dirty talk, passing your favorite details and sensations back and forth from your lips and your imaginations.

For that first time you open up and describe a hot scene from your own fantasies to your lover or partner, you can draw on all that fantasizing to be as specific as you can be about who you are in the fantasy, and who your partner is. Underneath even what could seem like the simplest of characters—the schoolgirl and teacher, for example—there are many variations, and some might be more of a turn-off than turn-on to you. Posing as an intense, over-achieving honors student may feel pretty different than demurring as a blushing freshman. Likewise, you can dream up a sweet, nurturing teacher for yourself to romance, or a scheming, perverted one to teach you a few tricks—or enjoy both at the same time—why limit yourself?

Before you play together, take care to really listen to your lover about how he or she sees their part in the fantasy you’ve laid out. This could be your first opportunity to let some creative collaboration come in to play. If you tell her that you’re set on being an utter brat, and you’d like her to punish you for it, she may have some suggestions and alternatives. Your partner could be absolutely delighted to be your teacher, but for him to get into the scene, he might say that by the end of your game, he will need to turn tender and fond of you (even as he pulls down your undies and wields a ruler, of course). A little negotiation only fine-tunes your fantasies into an even hotter shared game between you.

Speaking of undies and rulers, there’s already probably a few prop-worthy items at your place right now, just waiting to have their own secret identities called out. Many people collect and cherish erotically-inspiring garments, photos, and accessories for years before they have the opportunity to use them. Those seamed stockings you picked up on a whim? Maybe the old doctor’s bag from the tag sale? Your toys needn’t be specifically designed with sex in mind to provoke you, but when it comes to objects you may want to use in direct genital or anal play, you will want to consider investing in some dedicated toys, or, at a minimum, some condoms and lube to keep everything clean and your partners and lovers safe.

In addition to physical safety, consider your emotional well-being, as well. Even though you might not feel that you are doing anything all too severe in your fantasy, you might want to propose to your partner a safeword—a code that you can use to give one another permission to break character and check-in. You don’t have to save it only for moments of distress. You could decide that calling your safeword just means “time out,” and that you want to take a moment to step out of role and re-calibrate where the scene is going so that you can both continue. There’s nothing wrong with asking for a breather mid-scene.

One really popular safeword is “red” for “stop right now” and yellow for “slow down.” You can use anything that feels right to you, as long as you both know what you mean, and find one that fits the tone of your fantasy—like “mercy, ma’am” or “recess, please.” Safewords are also great if part of your fantasy includes protesting. After all, the captured princess would try to resist the daring pirate wouldn’t she? A safeword lets her pretend to fight, while leaving room for telling him when she really needs to take a break.

As you play, your fantasies may evolve over time. All in all, the changes you both suggest just add to the game. And, over time, as you find your mutual fantasies open up even more sexy flourishes and elaborations, you can incorporate spontaneously and instinctively. Once you take the time to get into one another’s erotic imaginations, you can take pleasure in keeping one step ahead of your partner-in-crime’s fantasies.

We’ve collected some of our best anal-play products, articles, videos and education pages here in one place like one great big booty prize!

More Booty for Your Booty
Get gear for your rear with our selection of anal toys!

The 10 Rules of Anal Sex
Ten essential guidelines, written by Jack Morin, PhD, a San Francisco sex therapist and researcher and the author of Anal Pleasure and Health.

Handy Shopping Guide
Check out Exploring Anal Sex, a handy shopping guide for anal players, especially helpful for beginners!

• “Strap-On Sex with Style: Introducing Stap-On Sex to a Male Partner” from the Sex Ed pages
• “An Introduction to Anal Play” from the Sex Ed pages
• “All About Anal” by Call Center Girls
• “Bend-Over Buddha” by Arlo Tolesco
• “Anal about Videos” by Florence Farr
• “Anal Play for Men: Getting Ready for Strap-On Play” by Elizabeth Colvin
• “Anal Sex for Women” by Cara Bruce
• “Deep Inside Buttman” by Violet Blue
• “Now That’s What I Call a Rim Shot!” by Violet Blue
• “Prostate Play” by Sheila Levine
• “Vibrating Anal Toys” by Charlotte Pope
• “The Virgin Butt” by Carol Queen
• “Anus Anonymous” by Carol Queen
• “Anal Self-Exploration and Self-Play for Men” by Bill Brent

After you read all of those (whew!) check out this Conversations with Margaret Cho video: Bend Over and Say Yeah! In it, special GV Guest Reporter Violet Blue talks with Margaret about all things anal:

And, check out this GVTV Video. Actually, this was the first video we ever shot…and let me tell you, it was quite an interesting experience talking to people about anal play and the prostate on Powell Street by San Francisco’s famed cablecars!

Have a great month, and remember….if it doesn’t have a flared bottom, don’t put it in your bottom!

1. It’s more about effort than price. You hear this all the time, but it’s true. A well thought out personalized present means more than an expensive one that doesn’t relate to the person you are giving it to. This also holds true for sex toys. Try to pick out something you think you’ll both enjoy getting some use out of, or a porn that features performers or genres you are both into. It’s often said that we buy the presents for others that we really wanted. Get the best of both worlds by taking some extra time to think about what will work the best for you as a couple. Sure she might really love a Rabbit, but perhaps a toy you can use together would be more appropriate for together time.

2. Try to relax and enjoy. What’s the point of running around and driving yourself crazy if you’re not even enjoying your time together? Sure elaborate plans, secret notes, and a highly organized surprise are great, but not at the expense of your sanity. Instead of trying to concoct a complicated scheme that has you walking on eggshells for weeks, just plan something simple and memorable. Taking your sweetie to a favorite low-key restaurant, where you on went on your first date, or any other physical location that has a special meaning for both of you can be infinitely more romantic than that impossible to get into hot spot. This also holds true for the sexual aspects of Valentine’s Day. If by the end of your night you’re just too tired to have sex, that’s ok! Cuddling, caressing, hugging, or maybe just making out like you were teenagers again might be the height of the evening’s romance and leave you just as happy. Don’t put extra pressure on yourself (or your partner) to preform, just enjoy each other. The rest might just happen Friday morning instead.

But for those of you still on the hunt for that special treat waiting at the end of the night, here are some fun suggestions available at any of our retail locations!

Sex Checks: Writing a check is rarely a pleasure-inducing event — we vowed to change that with this set of 24 checks, each promising an erotic request or act, from an hour of uninterrupted kissing to an erotic picnic in bed and blindfolded sex. We revamped our original design and erotic suggestions into this full-color checkbook that’s great to give as a gift — or remit, check by check, to your very favorite creditor.

Friday Nite Delight Kit: This kit is an end-of-the-week treat anyone can take delight in, whether it be for post-work, pre-party rejuvenation, or for a relaxing quiet evening at home. Start your night with a sparkly bath thanks to a GV Fizzy Ball (Grapefruit Martini). Then slather yourself in orange mango GV Body Oil (.5 oz mini bottle), GV Massage Lotion (.5 oz Sugar Plum) and GV Raspberry Chocolate Truffle Body Butter massage balm (2 oz tin). To top it off, we include a Magic Touch Mini Bullet Vibe and a 1 oz bottle of Good Lubrications Cream, as you never know where the night may lead!

Love3 Kit: The perfect little “snack” kit for those hungry to sample our bath and body products! This kit includes one each of the following:

• .5 oz Orange Mango Oil
• .5 oz Sugar Plum Lotion
• .5 oz Thin Mint Body Candy
• Sample size of Raspberry Vanilla Body Dust
• Pretty Puff
• Good Lubrications Cream Sample
• Four Mini Heart Massage Bars — one in each flavor with different colors of foil.

A great way to discover your favorite GV body product, and an even greater holiday gift!

Heartbreaker Crop: A little love never hurt! You’ll want to keep this Heartbreaker around—with its stiff braided nylon spine, easy-grip leather handle and double leather metallic red heart head—it’s one gift you’ll want to keep giving. Expect a surprisingly strong sting from the small head, as this crop isn’t very flexible…it’s a Heartbreaker after all. Black/red heart.

The Craving: These sure aren’t the fairy tales you grew up with but we think you’ll like these even more! Acclaimed director Brad Armstrong brings your fantasies to life as you follow the adventures of Little Red Riding Hood, Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella and more as they steam up your screen with hot oral scenes, threesomes, and some sizzling chemistry, oh my! The big budget production makes The Craving another Wicked classic as gorgeous costumes, amazing film production, and a deliciously delightful plot makes us excited to proclaim that something Wicked this way comes. 2007, 90 minutes.

Dangerous Liaisons: This sexy adaptation of Choderlos de Laclos’ 1782 masterwork Les Liasons Dangereuses, features a new twist on one of literature’s most intriguing tales of betrayal and deceit. Taking place in modern day New York City, Michael Lewis stars as the head of a fashion empire who enlists the help of Valentine Moore to seduce his ex-boyfriend’s new lover. Incredibly intense sex scenes result filled with passion, and hot pounding action. Strikingly filmed on gorgeous sets, we think this breathtaking film is dangerously addictive. 2005, 90 minutes.

Gifts for a Friend:

Pamper Me Pretty Kit: Think you want to nibble and lick your lover now? Just wait until you rub these delicious edible massage products all over his or her body. Packaged in an attractive purple container with a feather boa handle, this kit includes a 1 oz bottle of strawberry champagne Body Candy lickable oil, a 4 oz GV Massage Bar, and a 2 oz tin of raspberry chocolate truffle Body Butter — as well as a 1 oz bottle of Good Lubrications Cream for a slicker encounter.

Good Vibrations Guide to Sex: Anne Semans and Cathy Winks
Long one of our best-selling books — and a mainstay in college classrooms across the nation — The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex returns with this fully updated, up-to-the-minute third edition. This comprehensive guide covers an astoundingly wide spectrum of topics relevant to anyone exploring their sexuality in the new millennium, from basic anatomy and physiology to sex toys, sexual negotiation, erotica and much, much more. All orientations. 2002, 338 pp.

Gifts for a Couples:

Body Talk tattoo Kit: Get all of the thrills (and then some) of a tattoo without stressing over the commitment to a permanent mark with this couples activity set. The Body Talk Tattoo Set contains a 10 oz jar of delicious chocolate body frosting, stencil sheets and a paint brush — paint the stenciled commands (kiss, lick, etc.) or whatever you like on a partner and, well, we trust you can take it from there! An excellent choice for bachelorette, shower and wedding gifts.

Ignite Me Candles: We created the Me line with you in mind! Our new line of luxury bath and body products is perfect for those who like to indulge. If you liked our soy-based massage candles, you’ll love the new look and scents (but same great formula) of Ignite Me. Burn the candle, blow out the flame and drizzle the melted soy wax on your partner for a sensual massage. Soy melts at a lower temperature so you won’t get burned. Whether you want to soothe, invigorate or ignite your partner’s passion…Ignite Me is sure to hold a special place on your nightstand for many warm nights to come. Available in 2 oz and 4 oz tins.

Gifts for Family/Co-workers:

Soothe Me: We created the Me line with you in mind! Our new line of luxury bath and body products is perfect for those who like to indulge. Soothe Me is our decadent bubble bath. With quality long-lasting bubbles and a fresh, clean scent; you’ll emerge relaxed, refreshed and rejuvenated! Available in four great scents: English Lavender, Pomegranate Mint, French Vanilla, and Morning Dew. 2 oz, 8 oz, and 16 oz

And if you’re just not sure what they would love the most, you can never go wrong with a Good Vibrations gift card!

Happy Holidays!

So I’m sure like most people (myself included), you’ve totally been in that spot where you’re trying to pick out a gift for somebody and that $10 snow globe just won’t do it but that $100 sweater is just out of your price range — well, we here at The GV Weekly have put together the perfect gift guide to satisfy almost any budget (including affordable presents that seem much more expensive then they are!). Besides, isn’t it time you gave them what they really wanted for the holidays??

Books and DVDs

Matt and Khym: Better Than Ever: Another great film in the Comstock series featuring real couples—meet Matt and Khym. Together since barely out of their teens, this couple, now in their 30s, is taking the time to rediscover the joys of married life and married sex. From the way this couple talks to each other in the interview segment, and in a sweet, tender and hot sex scene, their connection and intimacy is apparent. Explicit and erotic, this is the perfect video for couples who want to watch a real couple have sex. Heterosexual focus. 2006, 51 min. $24.95

2007 Winner of Hottest Love Scene at the Feminist Porn Awards

The Craving: These sure aren’t the fairy tales you grew up with but we think you’ll likethese even more! Acclaimed director Brad Armstrong brings your fantasies to life as you follow the adventures of Little Red Riding Hood, Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella and more as they steam up your screen with hot oral scenes, threesomes, and some sizzling chemistry, oh my! The big budget production makes The Craving another Wicked classic as gorgeous costumes, amazing film production, and a deliciously delightful plot makes us excited to proclaim that something Wicked this way comes. 2007, 90 minutes. $39.95.

Fresh Meat 23: Wall-to-Wall at its finest; director John Leslie once again delivers his goods, fresh and meaty. Keep in mind, the subtitle to this episode is Little Titties & Tight Asses, so if you like non-stop action with tons of enthusiasm and intensity; you’re going to be a fan of this serving of Fresh Meat. Threesomes, anal, blowjobs and plenty of hardcore action…it’s all here. Don’t miss the Aubrey Addams/Lindsey Meadows three-way that includes toy, finger and hand use, double penetration, anal, as well as one rocking ejaculation! 2007, 152 min. $49.95

Lust, Erotic Fantasies For Women: Violet Blue, editor
“Lust makes the real surreal, and changes our boundaries when we’re in its heat,” says Violet Blue in the introduction to this celebration of female desire. Seventeen short stories take readers on a journey of arousal, attraction and sexual satisfaction. Whether it’s jail fantasies you crave; hot three-ways, sexy IT nerds, light bondage or a full-service sex shop experience….these sexy stories will have you panting. Heterosexual focus. 2007, 173 pp. $14.95

He’s On Top: Edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel
Editor Rachel Kramer Bussel, a GV favorite, took great care to create a collection about male dominance that is about exchanging power, not taking power. Storylines include tested limits, uncharted territories, personal struggles and strong-willed women. So, if it’s rough and tough men, pain, pleasure and control that get you off, you’ll find the kinky stories of your dreams inside these pages. Heterosexual focus. 2007, 192 pp. $14.95

She’s On Top: Edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel
There’s something about a strong, powerful woman who knows what she wants and how to get it…don’t you agree? If you get off on dominant women and submissive men, you’re going to get down on your knees for this hot collection! She’s on Top is all about the top and bottom dance—fantasies about taking and giving up power. With stories that include strap-ons, metal cinches, affairs with bosses and sexy married couples, you’ll enjoy the engaging writing and varying degrees of edginess in these pages. Heterosexual focus. 2007, 208 pp. $14.95

Toys

Flora: This silent beauty knows how to make an impact. Deep, powerful vibrations combined with a soft, slightly curved shape allows Flora to truly blossom. In addition to providing pulsing G-Spot stimulation, the outside ridges create additional sensations for in/out movements. Flora’s simple scroll-wheel also provides an easy control for intensity while the motor remains delightfully quiet. $24.00

Velvet Rhinestone: Add a little glam to your play with this velvety vibe featuring a hint of bling around the base. Great for internal or external use, the Crystal Dream’s smooth shape makes for easy insertion and the waterproof body means this discreet vibe can add a splash of glitz to the bedroom or the bath. And at this price, it’s easy to splurge. $16

Flamingo Vibe: Elegant curves and a substantial motor combine to make the Flamingo a must-have, whether you’re looking for an excellent G-spotter or simply an economical, reliable and attractive vibe. Not only does it look great, it’s practical – the nonporous hard plastic and waterproof design makes it easy to clean and usable in most any locale. 61/2” long, 11/4” in diameter. Uses two AAA batteries, variable speed. Pink hard plastic. V:4, I:4. $20

HeartBreaker Crop: A little love never hurt! You’ll want to keep this Heartbreaker around—with its stiff braided nylon spine, easy-grip leather handle and double leather metallic red heart head—it’s one gift you’ll want to keep giving. Expect a surprisingly strong sting from the small head, as this crop isn’t very flexible…it’s a Heartbreaker after all. Black/red heart. $19.99

Bath, Body, and Novelties

Smooch Me: We created the Me line with you in mind! We took our popular Lip Lube and gave it a make over, complete with a fresh new look and new flavors. Get ready to give your lips a treat and make them even more kissable! GV’s exclusive long-lasting formula is all-natural and vegan; perfect for soothing and moisturizing one of your most valuable assets. Available in Pomegranate Mint, Cherry Vanilla, Cinnamon Spice and Mojito flavors. 1 oz tin. $6.50

Chocolate Quickies: Perfect for those spontaneous chocolate cravings, Quickies Chocolate Body Frosting comes in perfectly portable packets so you can turn any evening into a decadent one. Unlike some other edible products, Quickies is made by a gourmet chocolatier, so it tastes as indulgent as you’ll feel licking this sweet treat off your partner’s body. There’s always time for a quickie! Package contains .25 oz chocolate. $2.00

Body Talk Tattoo Set: Get all of the thrills (and then some) of a tattoo without stressing over the commitment to a permanent mark with this couples activity set. The Body Talk Tattoo Set contains a 10 oz jar of delicious chocolate body frosting, stencil sheets and a paint brush — paint the stenciled commands (kiss, lick, etc.) or whatever you like on a partner and, well, we trust you can take it from there! An excellent choice for bachelorette, shower and wedding gifts. $18

Please Pleasure Cream: Add some zing to your nipple and clit play! This tingly, non-irritating cream for clitoral and nipple stimulation has a slight citrus scent and the perfect mix of natural ingredients, making it creamy, long-lasting and pleasantly powerful. Ideal for all-over minty-freshness, this cream should not be used as a lubricant and is not latex safe. For best results apply small amounts to you nipples or clit as each person’s perfect amount varies. .5 oz jar. $8.00 for .5oz, $22 for 2oz

Girl’s Night In: This little to-go container may sway you to stay inside tonight! This kitcontains: a Magic Touch Mini Bullet Vibe, a .5 oz jar of our tingly clit and nipple pleaser, Please Pleasure Cream, a .5 oz bottle of Touch Me massage oil (Pomegranate Mint), a Good Lubrications Cream sample and a Good Lubrications Gel sample. The perfect bachelorette party gift…or keep it yourself for a little me time pampering! Packaged in a pink polka-dotted plastic to-go container. Save 20% when you buy this kit! $18.50

Soothe Me Bubble Bath: We created the Me line with you in mind! Our new line of luxurybath and body products is perfect for those who like to indulge. Soothe Me is our decadent bubble bath. With quality long-lasting bubbles and a fresh, clean scent; you’ll emerge relaxed, refreshed and rejuvenated! Available in four great scents: English Lavender, Pomegranate Mint, French Vanilla, and Morning Dew. 2 oz, $8.00; 8 oz, $14.00; and 16 oz, $22.00

Happy Shopping!!

Eden: Watch as ten hardcore sex scenes, gorgeously shot in beautiful settings, transport you to a land of fantasy and desire. Filmed on location in Hawai’i, Eden follows a “Fantasy Island” scenario where guests of the mysterious Mr. Xavier experience an erotic “dream vacation”. Passionate sex scenes, great chemistry, and no shortage of beautiful performers make Eden fulfill all our fantasies. 2007, 216 minutes.

Babysitters: Hide the kids because these babysitters have their minds on something else completely. If you love babysitter fantasies or are just looking for a little inspiration for your own role play, this naughty Digital Playground feature just what you’ve been waiting for. This incredible roster of beautiful women take you through several different angles of the popular theme from babysitter seduction, bringing a boyfriend over, and oh so much more. Really hot group scenes, sizzling chemistry, and non-stop action is perfect proof why sometimes we like our porn more naughty than nice. 2007, 100 minutes.

MERC: This sexy standout made by people of color for people of color is the perfect film for fans of body appreciation and round-bottomed women. Never one to disappoint, Justin Slayer brings us his first feature film which follows a gangster who tells his story of the street. The dialog is mostly improvised and the sex scenes are smoking hot. Merc does include some plot-driven violence, but it’s outside the sex scenes. An amazing orgy, lots of rear view shots, and some great orgasms (including female ejaculation) combined with a full cast of color and some undeniable chemistry put Merc at the top of our must-see list. 145 minutes, 2007.

4 Finger Club #23: Watch as these hot ladies steam up your screen with scene after scene of enthusiastic 4 finger penetration. Whether they’re playing kitties, ponies, or even dressed as sexy maids, these all girl role plays are filled with some seriously intense chemistry. Fans of the series as well as those who haven’t experienced the 4 Fingers Club before won’t be disappointed by this latest juicy installment. 2007, 140 minutes.

Stuntgirl 1&2 Box Set: When Stuntgirl was released in 2004, it became an instant modern classic. As an astonishing mix of art and porn, Stuntgirl is regarded as the single most influential work of the new porn era and voted among the top XXX films of all time by AVN Magazine. In 2005 with the release of Stuntgirl 2, the bar was raised even higher with even more incredible hardcore sex and outstanding visuals. This newly re-mastered deluxe special edition box set with added features including original director’s cuts from the master tapes captures the breathtakingly artistic with amazing clarity. Perfect for fans of hardcore artistic films featuring some of the best raw talent in the industry. 2007, 180 minutes.

The Craving: These sure aren’t the fairy tales you grew up with but we think you’ll like these even more! Acclaimed director Brad Armstrong brings your fantasies to life as you follow the adventures of Little Red Riding Hood, Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella and more as they steam up your screen with hot oral scenes, threesomes, and some sizzling chemistry, oh my! The big budget production makes The Craving another Wicked classic as gorgeous costumes, amazing film production, and a deliciously delightful plot makes us excited to proclaim that something Wicked this way comes. 2007, 90 minutes.

Afrodite Superstar: This plot driven feature follows an up and coming rapper, played by Simone Valentino, as she strives for Superstardom while searching for love in the process. Great chemistry, a diverse cast, and steamy sex scenes make this first feature from the Femme Chocolat line a real stand out. We especially loved Simone Valentino’s hot masturbation scene. Erotic but with a lighter sensual tone, this film is great for newcomers to porn or those looking for films directed by and starring people of color. 2006, 75 minutes.

Happy viewing!

Delight: Innovative and well designed, this new creation from our friends at Fun Factory really delivers. The Delight boasts three variable speeds and three pulsation modes, and its signature shape, dubbed the “Royal Curl”, has a slightly bent tip meant to stimulate the G-Spot while the nub presses against the clitoris. And don’t worry about buying batteries because Delight is rechargeable, just make sure to let it charge for three full hours after purchase. An external hard plastic case is also included for easy storage.

Rosebud: Pretty and petite, the silky smooth Rosebud is the perfect size for fans of internal and external stimulation who want something a bit smaller than the Rabbit Pearl. This silicone beauty has no ridges or bumps, which makes insertion a breeze and the cute little tickler was specially designed by women to flutter at the sides of the clitoris while providing slightly more pressure in the middle. The quality of the materials combined with a powerful motor suggest that Rosebud might be your new favorite toy well into next spring.

Please Liquid Lubricant: This quality lube made exclusively for Good Vibrations features a fantastic new formula that replaces our old Good Lubrications lubricant. Non-sticky and scent free, Please Liquid Lubricant is also glycerin, paraben, and propylene glycol free and perfect for people with sensitivities. The extra slick texture is great for toys or partner use, and the barely there taste makes Please Liquid an amazing all around lube. 2oz, 8oz, or 16oz

Syngery: Discrete and attractive, the Synergy is a lot of toy in one pretty package. Featuring an ergonomic handle and six speeds, Synergy’s oscillating action (12,000 oscillations per minute) provides a powerful buzz. Five interchangeable attachments range from a rabbit flutter sleeve for clit stimulation to a G-spotter head. The beaded ball attachment is especially unique, with its bumpy, textured surface. Easily disguised as a daily household item, the Synergy is a great travel toy as well, coming with its own velvet carrying pouch.

Off With Your Head: Did you know that the head on your Hitachi Magic Wand was removable? It’s true! With a little tugging, the head pops right off for easy cleaning, but we have an even better idea. Meet Off With Your Head, this ingenious attachment slips right into the metal head under the removable plastic cap, transforming the hard plastic top into a softer silicone version. The special cap is also fitted with 3 ridges for added vulva stimulation as well as a raised nub perfectly designed to nestle into the clitoris for an intense, focused sensation. Easy to clean, this attachment is great for couple’s play and for folks who love the intensity of their Hitachi, but want to try a different feel. Black silicone.

Happy Shopping!

(from GV’s Info Desk: Sexual Health/Product Info)

Bondage, even with its kinky rep, has a totally charming sort of cross-sex-cultural cachet. For many people, it’s both sincerely perverted, yet sinfully delightful. No wonder it’s part of many, many fantasies.

These days, having the desire to tie up and tie down your lover is hardly limited to any one kind of sexual orientation or subculture; if it ever was. Could this be because bondage itself defies stereotypes, and is just so versatile; capable of moving from intense and passionate, to lighthearted and mischievous?

As confining as it is by its nature, bondage’s aesthetic and erotic aims run the gamut and refuse to be pinned down to just one way to be played. Whether your bondage games are about teasing, torment, or turning your beloved into a tightly wrapped work of art, there are some fundamental tools & concepts that are worth considering that will add equal parts skill and hotness to your bondage repertoire.

Consent
Bringing out our bondage fantasies – how we’re tied, how we’re exposed, how we get that way, and then what happens next – depends on our ability to describe those in enough detail to our partners, but still leave them generous room to improvise and embroider those fantasies with their own unique sensibility. In addition to explicitly sharing consent in getting bound or doing the binding, negotiating the finer points of a bondage scene carry that initial consent into a mutually devised, mutually devious time.

For some bondage enthusiasts, the act of being put into bondage itself is the core of their turn-on, enjoying the constricting sensation of rope or leather on their skin, or savoring the momentary loss of control. A bondage bottom may also bring an element of role playing or dominance and submission into their being bound, which, though far from mandatory, can turn up the psychological heat of a scene.

For the bondage or rope top, the plan may be to immobilize their bottom, to decorate them with ornate ties, or to take them down quick and dirty; and maybe with a little struggle. For every top who wants a docile and compliant subject, there’s another who thrills for the chase given by a bratty bottom. Discovering your bent as a bondage top, bottom, or switch can start helping you to map the kinds of scenes that will be possible with your lover, or inspire you to play in new territory drawn from their desires.

If you’d like some inspiration, check out our collection of erotica with bondage themes.

You can get all sorts of great ideas to fuel solo fantasies, or to share with a partner. One fun way to share them with a partner is to have each person read the stories and mark their favorite sections with different colored highlighters. Anything that gets both colors is a great place to start!

Variation
Fantasies about bondage span as much erotic terrain as would all the rope in all the dungeons in North America tied end to end, and probably even then some. The image most often conjured up by the request “tie me up!” is only the one that’s most managed to penetrate sex pop culture: a sweet thing tied spread-eagle to a bed, ankles and wrists bound to the corners.

In reality, we come in all shapes and sizes, and flexibilities, and most likely, we’ll need to make a few modifications to our bedroom furniture to accommodate our fantasies.

That said, that classic bondage position got that way mostly because it works. Having one’s legs spread open leaves one’s genitals fully revealed, and with the arms secured, suddenly, we find ourselves with “no choice” but to enjoy whatever trouble the person who’s so ably tied us down wants to get into with us – with our permission, of course. Likewise, this is a position that’s reasonably safe to try out even for your first time, unlike some pop culture bondage clichés. The hogtie, for example, might be a fixture in Hollywood bondage imagery, but is not ideal for playing due to the risk of injury. A chair-tie, however, right out of film noir interrogation scenes, is a great jack-of-all-scenes technique to learn; chairs being as plentiful as they are in our apartments and hotel rooms as they are in the fantasy offices and classrooms of our imaginations.

If you’re concerned about comfort, check out the Wedge and Ramp pillows, which offer firm support and are easy to clean.

Planning
When it comes to maintaining both the flow and safety of a bondage scene, anticipating possible complications is key, as either a responsible top or bottom. Safety, here, includes not only keeping a pair of Safety Scissors nearby – the kind you can safely cut rope with and not risk cutting your bottom – as well as an extra set of keys to your cuffs. It also entails discussion (before playing) about the limits and limitations of our bodies and what we want to do to and have done to them.

One of the most common fantasies, using stockings or neckties for bondage, also carries a lot of risk. While these tools are easy to find, the knots often tighten too much, especially when someone is pulling or struggling against them. A fun and safer alternative is a set of restraints, such as the neoprene and velcro Super Cuffs or the leather and buckle Leopard Restraints. Whichever method you use, make sure that you can easily fit two fingers between the restraint and your partner’s wrist or ankle and check that their hands and feet aren’t getting cold (a sign of possible reduced blood flow).

Knowing how to gracefully transition throughout a bondage scene is as much about having your toys ready at hand as being aware of the mobility of your bottom; about having asked them, teased them gently, or charmed them into revealing what is so erotic about going under your hand and your restraints. If you’re worried about your knot-tying skills, the Klutz Book of Knots will help you master the basics. Or you can avoid the issue entirely with the Sportsheet, which uses velcro and lets you put the restraints anywhere you want.

Being able to tie a safe knot is important, but so is knowing how to apply that knot to a sexually-charged game. We’ve got several books that will help you look suave and keep the intensity up…check them out.

It’s People, Tying People

This point is borrowed from JD of San Francisco’s bondage teaching duo, Two Knotty Boys. His adage – that bondage isn’t about tying knots, but about tying people – can give comfort to the aspiring rope wrangler who’s still feeling a bit on the klutzy side, and illustrates how easy it can be to get caught up in the minutiae of engineering cool rope tricks rather than focusing on the connection between you and your lover.

The turn-on of bondage as an erotic power exchange, then, can be as much about technical skill as it is sensitive attention to our desire; about being contained as well as being vulnerable. While wielding, or in, restraints, there’s the potential to reveal what we crave when we “just can’t help it;” what really gets us wet and wanting, what we still are hot for even when the ties are undone.

If you’re near one of our stores, or planning a trip our way, check out our listing of workshops. We often have classes on bondage, as well as lots of other great topics at both our Boston or San Francisco and Berkeley stores.

It is easy to fall in love with your favorite sex toys (we certainly do!), but when another person enters the picture it can seem awkward to find a place for both your toy and your partner in the same bedroom. While we are the first to say that sex toys are great for single play, there is no reason why your toy box has to stay locked up every time your lover comes over. After all, what better way to show your partner some affection than by introducing them to your favorite toys? Of course, just like introducing any aspect of sexuality into your bedroom, sensitivity, openness, and a good amount of adventure are required…so grab some batteries and call your sweetie because by the time you’re done reading these hot tips, you won’t want to keep them apart a minute longer.

Getting Ready

In order to figure out what toys will work best with you and your partner, it’s important to talk about what kind of sensations you are both interested in feeling, and what levels of involvement you are comfortable with. Whether that means vibrations, feelings of fullness (like from a dildo or butt plug), G-Spot or prostate stimulation, anal play or any combination of the above, figuring out the physics is your first step to finding a toy/toys that will be satisfying for everyone. Certain toys might be great for you, but don’t hold much interest for your partner and vice versa. The best advice we have for this is to try and be open minded, talk to your partner about what they want to try and see if you can find a compromise or a way to try the experience that will be comfortable for both of you.

This is also a good time to talk about logistics. For example, do you want a toy that you or your partner will need to hold or do your prefer hands-free playthings that will keep your fingers ready for other activities. Once you have narrowed down the options it will be easier to pick out a toy that will be satisfying for everyone, and don’t forget, our friendly SESAs at our retail stores and in the Call Center are here to help!

Safety First

As with any of our toys, we always strongly suggest keeping your toy clean between uses. And, if you are sharing it with another person, use a condom each time, and for each person. This not only helps make clean-up easier (changing a condom takes much less time than washing or boiling a sex toy), but it also prevents bacteria from spreading from person to person or becoming ingrained into your toy’s material (if it is porous or semi-porous). It is also important to change the condoms on your toy if it will be used both anally and vaginally since transporting bacteria from an anus to a vagina can cause infections and other health concerns.

Suggestions and Toy

For Hands On Action: Larger vibrators like the Hitachi, with a handle long enough to grab onto, can be great for reaching certain spots (like the clitoris) but can also become heavy or burdensome because of their size, or limiting due to their cord. If you want something a bit more compact you might want to opt for a more portable, battery operated vibrator like the C-Spot, Lucky 7 vibe or the Pearl Drop, which are less awkward to hold onto and focus with pinpoint accuracy on sensitive spots like the nipples, the perineum, clitoris, or anywhere you’d like some extra stimulation.

Fun with Fingers: Let your fingers do the walking with a Fukuoku 9000 that actually transforms your fingers into powerful little vibrators. Lightweight and discreet, the Fukuoku is great for adding stimulation to one spot or sending waves of pleasure as your fingers glide over your partner’s body (or your own). You can also slip the Neptune Ring Vibe around your finger and you’ll never have to worry about dropping it when things get slippery.

For When Your Hands are Tied: Some toys are always great for “no hands” play with or without a partner. Butt plugs like the Aneros, Progasm and Pandora stay in place on their own (and the Aneros and Progasm are great for hands-free prostate fun). And don’t forget about the wearable vibrators like the Venus Butterfly, the Daring Dolphin and the Neptune Ring Vibe, all of which keep your hands free for other purposes. If you want simultaneous vaginal and anal play, the Ménage à Trois Harness Kit works with either with two dildos or a dildo and a penis.

Easy On, Easy Off: Cock rings are always great for some extra stamina or stimulation (especially when combined with a small vibrator), but if you’ve never used one before, start with something that you can easily put on and take off like the Perfect Pair Ring, or an inexpensive and disposable alternative like the Screaming O Vibrating Ring. The Hands Free Cyber Ring, which can stretch to fit around a dildo or a penis, also comes equipped with nubs for clitoral stimulation, a small probe for perineum or anus play, and a small vibrator for great all-around pleasure. Or if you want extra action for the clitoris without a vibrator, check out the Raspberry Ring, which gives a little extra oomph.

Waterworks: For those of you who enjoy taking your romps into the bath or shower, there are plenty of waterproof toys ready and willing to go along with you. The Aqua Rabbit, C-Spot, Pearl Drop along with many of our other vibrators (and some cock rings as well) are waterproof. If you are looking for a discreet bath time toy that will easily blend in, pick up a I Rub My Duckie, with its nostalgic exterior and powerful vibrations, this duckie might keep you and your partner in the tub way past bedtime. And don’t forget the silicone lubricants, such as Wet Platinum, Pink and Pjur, which won’t wash away like water-based lubricants do.

Remember, sex is supposed to be fun. Incorporating toys into partner sex is a great way to keep things exciting, explore your sexuality, and just have a great time. Hopefully these tips have given you and your partner a few good ideas to get started with…so talk, plan, play and explore!

What is G-Spot Ejaculation?

It’s not unusual for us here at Good Vibrations to receive a lot of questions about female ejaculation. After all, it isn’t something many people learn about in their basic Sex Ed. classes. Luckily, there is nothing we love more than separating sex facts from fiction, so read on for some enlightening truths about the G-spot, female ejaculation, and how they work.

Can Women Really Ejaculate?

Yes! While not all women may be capable of ejaculation, many women have experienced a rush of clear fluid (not urine) that is expelled during extreme arousal or during orgasm, from the urethra. For some women, female ejaculation happens naturally and without their control. For others, female ejaculation is something that they can teach their body to do. Many women who do ejaculate naturally have tried to hold back their ejaculations out of embarrassment or because they’ve mistaken it for urine. To those women we say, ejaculation is a gift! Let your fluids flow!

What is Female Ejaculate Composed of?

Female ejaculate is a clear fluid that is not urine but is actually very similar (chemically) to the prostrate fluid found in men, and is created by periurethral glands. This fluid is released through the urethra, which has led many people to confuse ejaculate with urine, but we assure you they really are different. The average amount of female ejaculate is estimated at around 1-2 teaspoons.

How Does a Woman Achieve Ejaculation?

The most common way to achieve female ejaculation is through stimulation of the G-spot, which is an area of spongy erectile tissue located inside the vagina along the vaginal wall. It is also known as the periurthral sponge. The periurthral sponge surrounds the urethral opening, which is where urine exits the body, and is located approximately 1 to 2 inches inside the vagina along the front wall (towards the bellybutton). Since the PC muscles help push fluids through the urethra, learning how to relax and contract may also help the ejaculate release from your body. It is possible, though much less common, for women to achieve female ejaculation through clitoral stimulation.

How Can I Stimulate my G-Spot?

To locate the G-Spot, apply lube to your fingers (usually the index and middle fingers work fine) and insert them into your vagina, making a “come hither” motion so that your fingers are pressing towards your stomach. The G-spot will also be easier to find when you’re aroused, since this will cause the spongey tissue to swell, making the G-spot area somewhat firmer than the surrounding vaginal walls.

If you are having trouble locating the area with your fingers, you can try a toy that is specifically designed for G-spot stimulation such as the Crystal Jelly Deluxe, the G-Swirl, the G-Twist, or any of our other G-spot Vibes. Since the G-spot is primarly responsive to pressure (as opposed to light touches), you might require help from a partner or toy to fully experience the sensation. When the G-spot is stimulated, you may initially feel an urge to urinate since the periurthral sponge presses against the urethra, but this should lessen after a few seconds. If this sensation makes you nervous, try urinating prior to getting started.

You may find that ejaculating is easier in certain positions, especially if your hips are higher than your head. While a pillow or two definitely makes it easier, if that doesn’t do the trick, check out the Wedge and the Ramp (or the combination kit). These pillows give you great support, have a machine-washable cover and are the right angle for G-spot play for lots of folks. Plus, they make it easier to combine G-spot play and oral sex!

For more info on G-spot play and female ejaculation, check out our DVD G Marks the Spot or the book Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot. And since some people ask what the G in G-spot is for, it’s named for Ernst Gräfenberg, a German gynecologist who published some of the first research on this sexual organ.

Other Useful Ejaculation Tips

1. Being able to contract and release your PC muscle can help with achieving female ejaculation. You can strengthen your PC muscles (as well as learning how to relax and contract them) by doing Kegel exercises. This article explains where the PC muscle is and how to strengthen it: Your PC Muscle and You.
2. Worrying about whether or not you will ejaculate is a sure way to throw yourself off (just like worrying about an orgasm), so make sure you’re in a comfortable place and try not to pressure yourself. If it happens, great. If not, don’t stress about it and have fun.
3. Adding clitoral stimulation to your G-spot stimulation might be just the ticket to get your ejaculate flowing, so always make sure to listen to your body and do what feels good. Not only does this have its own rewards but it might turn out to be just the thing to set your fluids free.
4. If you are worried about accidentally urinating while relaxing and contracting those PC muscles, create a space for yourself that will let you explore your body in peace. If placing towels beneath you, or even moving your exploits into a bathroom, will give you the freedom to let yourself go, then do it. Trying anything new for the first time (especially when it involves your body) can seem embarassing or even a little scary; what matters most is that you make yourself as comfortable as possible and try to enjoy what the experience has to offer you.

So grab your partner, your fingers, or your favorite G-spot toy and start exploring. You might even realize that female ejaculation is something you’ve done before. Either way, we hope this article has helped clear up a few myths and maybe even given you a few ideas to get your own juices flowing. And if female ejaculation just doesn’t seem to happen for you, at least you’ll have fun trying