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I have been working for Good Vibrations for over 3 years now and I was just thinking: I could never see myself working anywhere else. Where else can I talk openly about sex and vibrators while holding a dildo in my hand, or explain why anal sex is healthy and pleasurable—it’s all just another day [...]

Whats the best path of treatment for vaginismus? Are there any good online resources for self-help? (asking on behalf of my gf)

I’m not sure about the vast range that the online world offers re: this, but there is a substantive-looking site called vaginismus.com which is certainly worth exploring. And there has been one good book written about Vaginismus, which is a condition which involves the vagina not relaxing enough to allow for comfortable penetration — sometimes the tightness is so extreme that even a finger can’t be inserted without pain. Its functional definition refers to the inability to have intercourse.

“is “stone butch” with us today? if so, has this sexuality changed, remained the same, both?”

I’d say yes to that, although many of the people who would have been identified as stone butch in the old days are now viewed as genderqueer or some variation thereof; whether or not she/ze/he’s a very butch woman or a transman, some such masculine folks are more comfortable being the “do-er” (top, active partner) sexually (as if you can’t be active as the “receptive” partner… oh, words fail us). But the notion of “stone” is two-sided: on the one hand, it means “very very”; on the other, it refers to an unwillingness (or orientation away from) being the receptive partner during sex.

@GoodVibesSF What is the best route to becoming a sex educator?

Great question! The simple answer is, major in sexology or sex ed in a recognized program. But that answer is actually way too simple, because there aren’t very many of these programs, and there’s more than one kind of sex educator. The sexologist is clearly one. Many of these programs are pretty academic and ready you mainly for academic careers — which is great, if that’s what you had in mind. If you’d rather live the swashbuckling life of a sexpert, who may have no formal training but lots of real-world experience and knowledge, start amassing (and evaluating) your real-world experience! These folks often wind up teaching classes, writing books, and often being pretty big deals.

If a guy doesn’t climax after 20 mins of foreplay and 30 mins of sex does it mean the sex is terrible?

Oh, this is an awesome question! No, it doesn’t necessarily mean the sex is terrible at all. It might be so great that he’s trying with all his will not to let it end — so many people, of all genders, are trained to think that when a guy comes, the sex is over, that many men try hard NOT to climax! And that can train a man, whether he intended to do so or not, to have a hard time coming at all. (Of course, in reality, the sex doesn’t have to be over until everyone involved has had enough fun, or until it’s time to catch the bus for work, whichever comes first.)

dear carol hi my name is mark … since your a sex therpist this is my question i have a problume getting erect when i was younger at age 18 i got super erect now that i am 42years old i am haveing trouble geting erect i diabetes type2 can you give me advice on what to do or what kind of help i need thank you mark

Hi Mark! Thanks for writing, and apologies that I’ve been traveling and didn’t get right back to you. First I have to clarify that I’m not a sex *therapist* — I’m a sexologist, and my training is a little different than that of a sex therapist. But let me get to your question.

First, it’s natural for a man to have stronger, quicker erections at 18 than later in life, but just getting to age 42 is not a guarantee that you should notice much less ability to get erect.

Let’s all head for the back door!
I want to talk about a subject that for a lot of people are still afraid to talk about. This is a very pleasurable activity and yet, it still has a stigma or Taboo. I am talking about ANAL SEX OR ANAL PLAY. Yes I am putting it out [...]

In the course of my career as a sex educator at Good Vibrations, I have had numerous conversations with customers and it is always amazes me with their very interesting philosophies and views I hear about sexuality.
Some things are enlightening. Some comments make me take a deep breath and hope they can’t see the [...]

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Hello Fabulous Readers!
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Hello Friends!
Hi Everyone! Did you know that May is Masturbation Month? To celebrate “flying solo” we have some very hot suggestions for one-handed reading! So, grab your lube, settle back and try to not get your keyboard too sticky! Enjoy!
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Hello out there and welcome to this month’s Call Center Confessions!
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Hello Friends!
Thank you all for joining Molly and myself again this month for our Call Center Confessions. Spring is just around the corner and we have a couple of questions from folks who are new to the wonderful world of vibrators and toys. Spring is a lovely time of year to explore new things and [...]

Hello There Lovely Readers!
Welcome again to our fab and fun column where your Call Center Confession questions are answered and mysteries are revealed. CeeCee and I are excited about this month’s questions and hope you find them to be interesting as well.
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Hello Friends!
Thanks for coming back to read this month’s juicy Call Center Confessions. Molly and I hope your Valentine’s Day was filled with pleasure — be it solo or partnered. We were thinking of all of you and wishing everyone well! This month, we have a couple of inquiries regarding the recent trend and blend [...]

Hello Good Vibrations Friends!
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