This clip is worth watching all the way threw to the end. Nina is adorable, and explains how to properly pull hair, how to let a woman grind herself off on your mouth, and I think I have a crush on Kate.

Watch for the Vulva Puppet demonstration. We still sell them and they are STILL just as cool.

They don’t share their videos so you’ll have to jump over to their site and scroll down.

http://www.afterellen.com/blog/sarahwarn/celesbian-interviews-nina-hartley

Check it out. Cunts for Fags.

 When customers ask for gimmicky “aphrodisiacs” (not the right word, I know, but can’t think of a better one)…

We’re talking mood creams, orgasm pills, anti-ejaculation spray, anal desensitizers, etc.  It drives me berserk when people ask me for this stuff and let me tell you why.  Sex takes time folks, you’ve got to work to get the reward.  And why wouldn’t you want sex to take time, it’s so much fun.  I wish I had more time to spend whole days doin’ it: lingering, quick, rough, tender, vanilla, kinky, one, two, three people at a time.  Besides the results are so much better when you take your time to really enjoy your partner(s).  It gives you time to tease and build and explode, over and over and over again.

 Okay, so really, I understand why folks ask me for these things.  Everyone wants to be sexually satisfied.  Some folks aren’t and think these things might help them be.  I hate to break it to you though, there’s no pill you can pop, no cream you can slather on that will immediately make your sex life incredible.  You’ll have more luck renting a video, buying a book, and grabbing a new toy.  But for learning’s sake let’s talk a little about each of these gimmicks and see if I can’t find an actual solution from right here in the store.

Mood Creams:  I get asked for these a lot.  From both women and they’re partners and I have to say mostly straight folks.  The underlying dilemma here is that the chick isn’t always in the mood when the guy is.  Possible reasons?  Different sex drives, relationship issues, personal baggage, lack of sexual gratification (on her part, guys), not enough sleep, and even some medications can curb sexual appetites.  My prescription? Erotica.  Porn.  Ask her what she wants between the sheets. Settle arguments. Communicate. See a counselor. Add some kink. Get a new toy. Make compromises. Talk to a doctor. Get some good rest.  Take some time to seduce your parnter.  Compliment her.  Tell her at least once a day how fucking hot she is.  See if that doesn’t put her in the mood.

Orgasm Pills: This is what people ask for when they’re having trouble coming.  Again mostly this is women asking and they want a quick fix or an easy button.  Trouble is, there isn’t one.  There are many road blocks to climax: anxiety, lack of proper stimulation, low sensitivity, medications, not enough build-up, lack of lubrication, etc.  At least here there are plenty of options that can help.  Got anxiety? Try sensual massage, meditate, or talk to a counselor.  Not being stimulated properly?  Tell your partner what you like.  Remember how you come when you masturbate.  Try a new method (vibration, penetration, oral, rubbing, etc).  Don’t feel anything? Try a pump or a vibe or both.  Suction can bring more blood into your clit which will make it more sensitive.  Better yet, have your partner create a little suction for you. In really severe cases you can talk to a doctor about options similar to Viagra for men.  I don’t know what’s out there but I have heard some women say Viagra makes their clit more sensitive.  That’s one gimmick I’m not ready to debunk, just cause I don’t know enough.  Lack of build up? Slow things down.  Spend longer periods of time talking dirty, making out, rubbing up on each other, and having oral sex.  And lastly, if your just not getting wet enough add some lube for goodness sake!  There’s like a million different kinds out there.

Anti-ejaculation Spray:  This is almost the opposite request from above.  Guys frequently come in asking if we carry products that will make them have an everlasting erection.  My response?  Sorry, bros, but no.  And all the anti-ejaculation sprays out there are just topical numbing agents.  Do you know what that means?  That means you won’t be able to feel the pussy, ass, or mouth your fucking… Lame.  Technically, Viagra is actually capable of making an erection last a bit longer than it normally would, but it’s a drug and it’s really meant for folks who are having actual problems making through even one round.  And even so, you should be getting it through a licensed physician, not over the counter from your local sex shop.  So how then do you last longer?  Well, for one: practice.  Try to learn more about your sexual response signals.  Try the stop and go exercise… Masturbate or fuck until right before you think your gonna come and then stop and do something else for a bit- rub your chest or tweak your nipples; hell go down on your partner again for a bit.  Then when you’ve calmed down some, rinse and repeat.  You can also pick up a book, a very specific book: Mantak Chia’s Multi-Orgasmic Man.  Read that and then ask me again. 

Anal desensitizers: Similar to the aforementioned product, these are numbing agents.  Let me be quite frank with you.  Numbing agent + Ass = BAD.  “Why?” you ask.  “Doesn’t it make it easier to put things in my butt?”  No actually, that’s what lube is for.  Numbing agents will not make it easier to shove a dick or a giant plug up your butt… You just won’t be able to feel your skin tear from too much too fast too soon.  Have no fear though, lube works wonders for ass play.  Butts like slippery fingers and toys much better than dry ones.  Another thing to remember is that the ass needs to exercise before it can work with the really big visitors.  Start small and work your way up to said dick or giant plug.  Trust me, Belladonna had to practice to become the ass-champion she is today.  Also, relax.  Your butt is a tension epicenter and needs time to chill out before accommodating any guests.  Helpful relaxation methods?  Rimming, external vibration, sensual massage, even meditation…  Whatever works for you, just take your time so you can feel the fabulousness and not get hurt.

 Okay, that’s my rant for today… Hope you enjoyed!

Sincerely, 

~*~Red~*~

Oh and P.S.  Your Sex Tip of the Day:  Next time you get hot and heavy challenge yourself to make-out out with your partner as long as possible before reaching in for the naughty bits.  That means clothes on, kissing and rubbing only.  You may also whisper naughties into each other’s ear, but that’s it!  See how wet and hard you can get just by doing that… By the time you get around to the main dish(es), you’ll be guaranteed an incredible time.

I was thinking some crafting, some fun fur (good for furries or burners) some googly eyes (might as well interact with it!) and some glitter for that matter. We could coordinate a Hitachi craft day!

Wee!!!

Okay. Okay. This green tea drinker has been hitting the coffee a little too much lately and well… I am utterly delighted by all the new products and oodles of videos that are coming in and the prospect of even more. But this one new one has got me running back to work , skipping lunch so i can tell you all about it and i haven’t even tried it yet.

That’s how friggin cool it is. I could pee my pants.

Ahem. Meet my new BFF. Why didn’t people think of this before! A friggin SILICONE replacement for that tennis ball head that can get well kinda …ya know.

Of course we have insert-able ones that those GENIUS folks at Vixen have already come up with, but those folks that flip them around and not insert them, here is the answer!

Off with your head is a dream come true and it’s cheap! $35 bucks for real silicone!

Vixen–those genius’ over there, for real.

More people should know about pumps. I know what you’re probably thinking — it’s the same thing I thought before I learned about the pump. I thought they were used to make dicks look larger. Well, maybe for a second. Like, if I use the pump on a section of my forearm, it will make the skin of my arm puff out for a minute. But it soon goes back down. And so does the cock. Instead of thinking about them as “penis enlargers” or as some kind of miracle treatment for erection difficulties, think of them as a damn sexy addition to sensation play, whether with masturbation or with partners.

Pumps are not just for the penis. They’re also great on nipples, and also on clits! (All three nice and sensitive areas of the body.)

Pumps make a vacuum around wherever they are placed, which draws blood to that area. You’ll feel it right away, as increased sensitivity to your nerve endings. The part it’s placed on, let’s say it’s a clit, will swell. Try placing it over the inner labia, as those sensitive areas swell quite noticeably under the gentle vacuum of a pump.

Will it go back down?

Yes, of course. The body part will soon go back to its normal state.

Tip: Using a pump on a penis? Put a cock ring on right after the pump is taken off — it will keep your pumped up erection up just a little longer.

Tip: Use generous thick lube to create a strong air seal around the mouth of the pump so that the suction will be a complete vacuum.

Tip: Go slow! – squeeze until just enough suction is created to hold the pump to your body without your hands.

Cylinder (left) and Pump (right)

Read more about pumps in our article about pump safety at GoodVibes.com.
Browse our Pumps and other sensational sex toys.

And finally… Crystal Snow tells the boys and the girls to Pump it Up.

So in the show Tyra decides upon a few different angles to get the message of vaginal truth across including taking a woman to her first gynecology appointment (SO Important!), explaining to her audience why you should be checking out your vagina in a handmirror, and even more importantly what all those parts are called and how they work together. And for this dynamic discussion, what did I spy but the one and only Wondrous Vulva Puppet. For those of you who aren’t yet familiar, we here at GV have been using and selling the Vulva Puppet for years. Not only is it a beautifully made product that would make a great home accessory, it’s also fantastic for educational purposes. Whereas anyone can pick up a dildo and explain how male anatomy looks fairly easily, there has never really been a similar product that could do the same for the vulva. Masturbation sleeves don’t accurately represent female anatomy and those vagina models that some doctors have aren’t readily available (and they don’t move, which makes understanding the folded and hidden parts more difficult).

The wondrous vulva puppet is a remarkable one of a kind product that acts as a working, moving-part model that is able to show where everything is. Pretty amazing right?

For more info about the wondrous vulva puppet and how you can take one home, click here.

To see the wondrous Vulva Puppet in Action, check out the video:

Here a few other ideas that I think are great for more adventurous couples:

The Ideal Vibe is great for clit stimulation in the doggie style, spoon, or woman on top position. I love the angle on the toy! The uniquely shaped handle and cordless style make it a great choice for many couples looking for a vibe to incorporate into intercourse.

The Candy Button and the C-Spot are both great for incorporating into intercourse. The angels of the heads on the vibrators are perfect for clit stimulation during penetration. Oh, and the Candy Button is waterproof, so you can enjoying during bath time as well!

I love the Bullseye and the Mustang for strap on play! They are both made from silicone, which I believe is a must for anal toys and are closer to actual penis sizes so they are great for beginners and even the more experienced bend-over-boyfriends out there. The Share is another top favorite of mine because of it’s almost silky smoothness and great flexibility. I feel that this is a great improvement on the Feeldoe .

A great book for couples who are interested in a little more than just the wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am kind sex (which most GV shoppers seem to be interested in much more than that) is Urban Tantra . What makes this book so fantastic is the way in which author Barbara Carrellas writes and the angle at which she approaches things. She does not make assumptions about who is reading the book & who they are practicing tantra with so there are no stereotypes. This book covers a wider range of topics than most tantra books including tantra for one to use while masturbating, BDSM, group tantra and using sex magic to heal sexual wounds. This book can teach us all a little something.

For those that are looking to add a flavor to the routine but don’t like the taste of flavored lubes, then look no further than Sliquid Swirl flavored lubricant. The flavors are phenomenal (Green Apple Tart is a good mix of sweet and sour, Cherry Vanilla is lusciously candy-like, and the Blue Raspberry has a slightly tangy, sour taste).The lube also boasts a bunch of other great qualities such as: water based, GLYCERINE-FREE (it’s sweetened w/ Aspartame), hypoallergenic, non-toxic, non-staining, easily reconstitutes with water, no animal testing, blended to emulate natural body lubrication, and it is compatible to use with latex, rubber, and plastic. That is one great list of positives! I just love this stuff!

The last item on my list would be all the products from our new “Me” line. All three new products to the line, Touch Me Massage Oil , Soothe Me Bubble Bath , and Knead Me Massage Lotion , are all great sensual baths and massages with your special someone. They also come in 4 great scents: English Lavender, Pomegranate Mint, French Vanilla, and Morning Dew. These also make a great gift for anyone who you would like to indulge.

So get out there, try some new things, and most of all HAVE FUN! Good Luck!

1. If you haven’t found your g-spot yet, wait to look for it until AFTER you’ve had an orgasm. This will allow your body to become fully arroused, meaning the periurethral sponge that makes up the g-spot will be fully swelled and rarin’ to go.

2. Your g-spot is located on the front wall of your vagina, ALWAYS. It doesn’t move, it’s not in the back or on the side for some women. It’s in the front, think towards your belly button, and it is most likely not located very deep into your vag. It can usually be found 1-2 inches deep, not far, some women even have these little goldmines protruding slightly from the vagina. Talk about easy access!

3. Try fingers FIRST. Fingers are nature’s own g-spot toy: they’re free, bendable, easy to clean, and super strong. Plus you can make ‘em hook, press, or crawl against the g-spot to find out what you like. Using your fingers or your partner’s will also let you feel the internal texture of your vagina, this is important because the g-spot can easily be characterized by a ridged texture quite different from the rest of the vaginal wall. If you have trouble reaching your fingers into your vagina, I understand, and in such case would highly reccomend a toy with an “S” curve. These include the Spectral (in stores only), the New Wave, and our latest and greatest- the Tryst. The hardness of these materials, glass, steel, and wood, respectively, are supreme for hunting after the g-spot and their curve makes getting the right angle so easy.

So, moving on, the other spots I frequently find myself discussing with customers and friends alike are as follows: the P-spot (or spots I should say), the U-spot, the C-spot, and the A-spot. I get a little tired of the word spot at times and wish we could use other similar words like place, area, or even niche, just so I wouldn’t get so tongue-tied. But that’s besides the point. The point being there are many erogenous zones in the human body, the vagina especially, that we as sexual athletes should know about.

The C-spot is one I get questioned about quite often, thankfully this one has an easy answer. I don’t know who coined the term, Cosmo or Jane, but the C-spot is just a sassy way to say clitoris. Simple as it seems, it isn’t quite. Many men and women in the world don’t even know where the clitoris is, let alone, how to stimulate it well. This is a gigantic problem, seeing as about 90% of female bodied folks need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. That’s right, only one in ten women can climax from penetration alone. No joke.

So how do you stimulate the clit? So many ways: a pointed tongue, a circling finger, a jutting hip bone, a grinding pelvis, a textured dildo, a pulsing bullet. Wanna learn more? Read a book, Box Lunch by Diana Cage and Tickle Your Fancy by Sadie Allison both have great ideas (illustrations included) about how to work the C-spot. Wanna try a toy? Lelo’s Nea and Lily are perfect vibes for the clit: small, strong, and quiet, not to mention rechargeable!!! Employing a cock ring with clitoral inclinations ensures your clit will be attended to during penetration, my personal fave is the Blackberry Vibe Ring, it’s nubby texture is delicious. (Harness wearers stay tuned for an awesome blog about cock rings, harnesses, and dildos.)

One last thing about the C-spot. Adding a little clitoral play to your G-spot games will ensure an incredible time for all. May I suggest a little clit-sucking while driving the fabulous new Fling, our new wooden miracle who’s just begging to get in on that oral action.

Okay, so my time is up for today, and I know I only covered two spots. Keep reading though, next post I’ll go on about the P-spots. Bet you didn’t know there was more than one!

Ciao!

*Red*

P.S. Hi, I’m Red, the newest addition to the GV Blogging team! Enjoy…

P.P.S.  If you enjoyed this post please check out the following two posts in the series, Still Seeing Spots and The Final Spots.

When was the last time you took a good long look at a pussy? Do you know where your (or your girlfriend’s) clitoral cruras are? Even if you’re a hoohoo master, I’ll bet you can’t name all the parts of the clitoris! (Hint: What we routinely call our clit is really just the tip of the iceberg.) But believe me, if you understand where everything is and what each part does, you’ll have a greater mastery of your, or your lover’s sexual response.

First stop on the pussy tour is the mons, or mons veneris, which is Latin for Mound of Venus, also known as the mons pubis, or just “the mound.” It’s the fleshy, comfy, cushy area between your legs where the bush grows. It’s nicely padded to protect the pubic bone from impact during intercourse. It’s a very sexually sensitive spot, and while it’s not going to get anyone off, it’s full of nerve endings, and lightly stroking your lady’s mound before going below will fill her with shivers of delight.

Next we have the inner and outer labia. These are two sets of lips that surround all the sensitive insides. The outer lips, called the labia majora, are fleshy, padded, and hairy. The inner lips, or labia minora, are slippery little buggers that have no hair follicles. Inner lips come in every shade, from carnation-pink to burgundy to dark chocolate. They are extremely sensitive, often uneven in size, and sometimes long enough to extend past the outer lips. When a woman is aroused, the inner lips fill with blood, causing them to swell and turn darker. Many women love having their inner lips stimulated — and some enjoy it more than direct stimulation of the clit.

Now we come to everyone’s favorite magic bean, the clitoris, or “clit.” The clit is where a lot of the action happens. Think of it as similar to a penis, only with four times as many nerve endings. The part that most of us are referring to when we talk about our clits is actually just the head, or glans of our clits. The clitoris is a complex organ that pretty much extends throughout the entire genital region. Anytime you make your lady feel good by stimulating her vagina, her anus, her lips, or anywhere else down there you’re also indirectly stimulating her clit. The clitoris is the only organ in the human body — male or female — whose sole purpose is sexual pleasure.

The clitoris is a network of nerve-rich organs consisting of the hood, the clitoral glans, the clitoral shaft, the crura or legs of the clitoris, and the clitoral bulbs.

Until not too long ago, folks believed that the clit was just the little man in the boat and that was it. But now thanks to awesome books like Rebecca Chalker’s The Clitoral Truth, and A New View of a Woman’s Body by the Federation of Feminist Women’s Health Centers we know that it actually has many parts.

The clit is shrouded by the clitoral hood, a fold of draped tissue that keeps your sensitive button safe from over-stimulation. If you pull back the hood of the clit you will expose the glans or visible nub of the clit — otherwise known as the little man (or woman) in the pink canoe. The clit has about 8,000 nerve endings — more than any other structure in the human body. It’s pretty much a different size and shape on every woman. Pay close attention to the clit. It’s extremely sensitive and stimulation of this baby is essential to most women’s orgasms.

The shaft of the clitoris runs just superior to the clitoral glans. Run your finger over the hood of the clit and press down on it. You should feel a rubbery cord extending up toward the bush. This cord could be anywhere from half an inch to an inch long. It’s sensitive, and pressing on it should feel good. Most women will find that massaging it gets them hot.

Now we’re getting to the behind-the-scenes stuff. The shaft of the clitoris extends up toward the mons, then it forks and bends around forming two wishbone shaped legs, or the clitoral crura. The crura run down either side of the vagina about three inches, below the surface, just behind the labia minora. The crura are too deep for you to feel with your fingers. But, trust me, their presence is one reason penetration can feel so heavenly.

Starting from the point where the shaft and crura meet there are another two extensions — the clitoral bulbs. I told you this thing was big! The clitoral bulbs extend internally down and underneath each of the labia minora. They’re bigger than the crura and they fill with blood and get hard when a girl is all juiced up.

Below the clit you’ll find the urethral opening — you know, your pee-hole. This is where urine leaves the body. It’s also where ejaculate leaves the body. In both women and men, the urethra is surrounded by a ring of spongy tissue that fills with fluid during arousal, and this is the fluid that comes squirting out during female ejaculation. The exact make-up of this fluid is made of is still up for debate, but everyone agrees that it isn’t urine. The spongy tissue is called the urethral sponge or the G-spot. It’s pretty hard to locate if she’s not yet turned on. But once she gets going, bam! It’s a big old hard button about the size of a quarter that you can push on and rock her world.

You can feel the rough texture of the G-spot if you stick two fingers in your lady’s honey pot and prod around up toward the front wall of her pussy. That rough, textured, bumpy area is her G-spot. Push on it, and she may feel like she has to pee. That’s normal — you’re poking around her urethra. Or maybe it will make her eyes roll back in her head. There’s no telling. For many women this is a huge erogenous zone and stimulation of the G-spot may make your girlfriend act like the Sparklett’s Water Fantasy show at Sea World. You know that female ejaculation thing you’ve heard so much about? Well, this is where it all happens, baby.

Below the urethra is the vaginal opening. We think of the vagina as a tube, but really the walls of a woman’s cooch lie flat against each other until she gets hot. The vaginal walls are a mucous membrane. This is why we get slippery when turned on. The walls exude the slippery stuff that makes sex so much fun. But this slippery fun also helps to continuously flush out the whole works. The vagina is a self-cleaning organ. In other words, douching is never necessary. It fucks up the vagina’s natural bacteria killing acidic environment leaving you open to possible infection. And no one wants to eat a snatch that tastes like Bubbalicious anyway.

When a woman gets all juiced up, the outer, nerve-rich section of the snatch tightens up and gets hard, but the back two-thirds of the sexual hallway — the less sensitive section — expands dramatically in length and width. This process is called tenting, and it’s what makes vaginal fisting so awesome. There’s a lot more room in a pussy than you’d imagine.

Below the vaginal opening are two tiny little bean-sized glands called the Bartholins glands. These babies don’t do much except provide small amounts of lube during sex. They can get blocked and swell up, a painful and annoying event, but not life threatening.

For most women reading this article, I’m guessing your hymens were obliterated long ago. But let’s just pretend you’ve still got a cherry. It would be a thin membrane of tissue stretched across the opening of your hole. Most of the time this thing breaks before you ever get around to sticking anything up there. Just about any kind of strenuous activity can pop your cherry. The cervix is the opening to the uterus. If you stick your fingers up into the vagina you’ll feel a round knob-like thing. It’s a bit (doggie) nose-like. Yep, that’s the cervix. This is the place from which menstrual blood escapes every month. While it has no nerve endings on its surface, the cervix responds to pressure. Bumping into it with a blunt object can feel good, or it can really hurt. Depends on the lady.

Now test your pussy knowledge!

1. The vagina:
   1. has teeth
   2. should smell like grape Bubbalicious
   3. “tents” during sexual arousal
2. The clitoris:
   1. is just a cute little nubbin
   2. is actually an entire network of complex and nerve-rich organs
   3. is the way to a woman’s heart
3. The G-spot:
   1. is a myth
   2. is a lesbian bar in Los Angeles
   3. might just make your lady go Boom!
4. The vulva:
   1. is the name of the entire female genital area
   2. is a well-engineered Swedish car
   3. is often portrayed as a flower in feminist artwork

Key:
1 – c, 2 – b, 3 – c, 4 – a