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This article originally appeared on SFGate.
It’s bad enough that I have just learned that some workplace firewall software won’t let you look up porn, restaurant reviews, OR sex education (yes, really, there is a website category called “sex education” in which the Center for Sex & Culture plus many other legit sites are included, and [...]

Dr Queen:
Due to my upbringing, I wanted to wait for complete sexual intimacy until I met someone special, and so I have never experienced penis penetration. I am not gay ~ I just don’t believe in casual sex (I find it difficult to meet someone where there is mutual attraction and someone who believes in [...]

I have developed a very painful blister next to my clitoris. My gyn said it looks like an ulcer and has given me a tube of steroid cream to apply. It’s somewhat better, but still there. She wants to do a biopsy (ouch) to make sure it’s nothing to worry about too [...]

I have been thinking of getting a glass dildo, but I wonder about the possible danger of a glass toy breaking during use. Obviously that would be terrible–can you tell me anything about preventing this? Many thanks!

There are three or four things to be aware of, safety-wise, with glass sex toys: that is, toys [...]

Dear Doctors:
I am a 50 year old female in good health and shape with a healthy libido.  My problem is difficulty achieving an orgasm with my new husband.  I have had this problem for years now since coming out of a poor marriage with a husband that was not interested in satisfying me.  I can [...]

My Good Doctors:
I have suffered from delayed ejaculation (and orgasm) since I became sexually active  in the early seventies. It is a bother to not be able to orgasm without or with a partner.
I can find very little on the net except that 1) hypnosis may be of help (how or for what the NIH [...]

I have met many of my sexology forebears at one or another sex conference, but by no means all of them; it’s always pretty thrilling when I get to swap ideas with someone who got to the party long before I did, whose work has in fact influenced me and the rest of my colleagues. [...]

Can you tell me if there is any association between anal penetration and incontinence.  Would stretching the muscles cause a laxity later in life?
Thanks for your great question!
The pelvic floor muscles commonly known as Kegels or PC (short for pubococcygeal) muscles are a significant part of the system that keeps our innards inside us, allows [...]

My wife has gone through Menopause and is 55 years young, and now has no interest in sex. What can I do?
There are several things that might affect a woman’s sexual interest in mid-life, and I’ll try to lay them out here. To find out which elements are likely to be affecting your wife, you’ll [...]

Dear Dr. Queen, I need advice…I’m a 30-something female recovering from childhood sexual abuse and a recent rape. My therapist and I are working on discovering and discussing my sexuality. Any advice about how to continue my sexual healing and how to allow myself to feel physical sexual sensations in my body?

Dear Dr. Queen,
I am a female 65 yrs. Young and had a  complete hysterectomy in  1987.  Of course, you already know I lost everything that makes me want sex.  I had to fake it.  In the last few years, I learned that I can stimulate my clitoris and claim some victory with use of a vibrator.  [...]

Dear Dr. Queen,
I got your email from my gynecologist at Planned Parenthood Golden Gate because she had no idea how to help me.
You see, about a year ago I had a bike with a very, very hard seat. I suppose I was a careless rider because I ended up whacking my crotch quite a few [...]

Hello. I am twenty years old and unfortunately suffer from sexual dysfunction. Before seeing your blog on Good Vibration’s website I had no idea this was an issue with other woman. I was wondering if you knew where I can find help, any kind of help with this issue. I didn’t know there were people who studied this or that I could talk to. So if you can, please help me out. Thank you so much.

Dr. Carol Queen, Ph.D answers a question from our Social Networks.
Question: (A comment on our YouTube.com Channel)
Hi,
First of all, I want to thank you for your great channel and your awesome videos . Please keep them up and I’ll always be waiting for your new videos .
Secondly, I need a [...]

Dr. Carol Queen, Ph.D replies to questions from our social network.
Question: OK, seriously. what’s the deal with cock rings? what is it supposed to do?
A cock ring does three or four things.
One, it dresses up your (or someone else’s) cock. Especially those involved ones with straps and things (which can also serve as a [...]

Dr. Carol Queen, Ph.D answers questions from our Social Networks.
Q: Are all women capable of squirting? A not so related note: are some women more prone to dryness than others? Or are they just not turned-on?
Oh, juicy question! Here we go, one element at a time:
We don’t know whether all women are capable of [...]

Dr. Carol Queen answers questions from our social networks.
Q: Partner is on antidepressants. Whilst turned on, she can’t now come w/ oral sex. Is this normal? Ways to overcome? Use vibe with sex at mo.

While I don’t like the word “normal” much (there’s such a range of things that are “normal” — or average, common, [...]

Dr. Carol Queen Ph.D answers questions from our social networks:
Q: Headaches w/ orgasms? It’s been getting worse, & now distracts from the orgasm every time. Anything that can be done?

Oh, owww! Headache with orgasm is pretty much no fun at all, and is more common than you might think. I conferred with my partner [...]

Dr. Carol Queen answers sex questions from our social networks.
Q: Hello, I am a lesbian and have been having sex with woman since i was 16. I’ve given a lot of oral sex and make other women reach orgasm but ive never been able to. ive tried masterbating…but i cant seem to reach the [...]

Dr. Carol Queen answers questions from our social networks.
Q: my sex question- how do I get some? I mean, with someone I actually find sexually attractive!
Ha! Well, there *is* this little phenomenon called “the sex industry” which evolved to address this prevailing question. Perhaps you’ve heard of it! While not every provider will be [...]

Dr. Carol Queen answers sex questions from our social networks.
Q: can a gay encounter, as a virgin’s 1st ever – shape their life long sexual preferences? i’m str8, first f** was with a man – STILL curious
There are two distinct ways to look at this. In this culture we hear sexual orientation referred to [...]

Dr. Carol Queen answers questions from our social networks.
Q: Got any tips for using Dental Dams?
Oh, fabulous question! First, one type of dental dam was designed for safer sex rather than dentistry: the Glyde dam is larger than old-style dental dams, so get hold of that kind if you can. Mark the dam with [...]

Dr. Carol Queen, Ph. D answers sex questions, this one came in from Facebook.
I was wondering… why does it feel good when my bladder is full? Is it pressing on my g-spot? I’ll even start and stop my flow during urination because it feels so good, nearly orgasmic. Why does this feel good? My [...]

Hallie Potocki, a writer with First Magazine (1.5 million readers), is doing a piece on sexual confidence for women and is looking for a ‘testimonial’ woman who would like to share her story. She will need to briefly interview a woman between 30 and 50 (attractive as her photo will be in the magazine) whose [...]

Staff Sexologist Dr. Carol Queen answers your questions…
Question: my wife takes paxil + is also survivor of sexual abuse as a teenager = she has like 0 drive or enjoyment, sex is a 1 a mo duty – what 2 do?
You’re right that your wife’s low libido/enjoyment could be due both to the meds she’s [...]