Sex Questions for Dr. Carol Queen: Urination, G-Spot, and Pleasure
By Dr. Carol Queen • Jul 2nd, 2009 • Category: Blog, Carol QueenDr. Carol Queen, Ph. D answers sex questions, this one came in from Facebook.
I was wondering… why does it feel good when my bladder is full? Is it pressing on my g-spot? I’ll even start and stop my flow during urination because it feels so good, nearly orgasmic. Why does this feel good? My body is a mystery to me.
Thank you!
Curious Pee-er
Hmmm… it sounds to me like the Miracle of Nerves! There’s considerable variation in our neurology, as well as in the way we respond to sensation. Hence, what feels noticeable but neutral to one person might feel quite delightful to another; and someone might have much better-developed nerves serving a part of the body than someone else. As we use our bodies for various activities, nerves actually grow to support the use: that helps us get better at throwing a softball or knitting a sweater, and it helps us more easily reach orgasm once we’ve stumbled onto the stimulatory path that gets us off. So my guess is that your “sensorium” – your neurology and the way your brain interprets those neural signals – has always been tuned more toward appreciation of the pee sensation, and your start-stop play (and any extra stimulation you give your bladder during masturbation, like bearing down, pressing on it physically, etc.) would help reinforce this tendency to derive pleasure, plus it would also support further nerve growth. Pretty soon you have a full-blown erotic relationship to your full bladder… just as other people have an *anti*-erotic response because their nerves send a different message.
Your sense that this all has something to do with your G-spot might be right, but doesn’t tell the whole story, because not everyone has this degree of erotic response to a full bladder even if they have an active G-spot. I’d be curious about how long you’ve noticed this pleasure to be part of your experience and whether you felt special pleasure in a full bladder and peeing even before you began to think of it as erotic – and also how this interacts with more common kinds of erotic pleasure like clitoral or vaginal stimulation. These things might have some relationship to each other – or not. Bodies! So anomalous, so wonderful!
If there are any neurology buffs out there who want to weigh in, by all means feel free.
-CQ
Related at Good Vibrations:
The Good Vibrations Guide: The G-Spot
Multi-Orgasmic Woman * Paperback
Female Ejaculation And The G-Spot
Dr. Carol Queen >> Carol Queen is a writer, speaker, educator and activist with a doctorate in sexology. First as an organizer in the lesbian/gay community, where she helped found one of the first gay youth groups in the United States, and later in the emerging international bisexual community, as a sex worker and a practitioner of alternative sexualities, she typically teaches and writes from her own experience and that of her communities even as she references academic thought on these subjects. See her website: www.carolqueen.com.
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okay, so I’ve had sex, I’ve tried fingering myself and have had my boyfriend do it to me…but I don’t have orgasms…what’s up with that…so I feel bad because I fake them so my boyfriend won’t feel like hes doing something wrong…but than I feel like I’m doing something wrong because I’m keeping a secret from him that is just plane ridiculous. I’m starting to wonder if there is something wrong with me…because I have a different way to pleasure myself I cross legs and breath in and out and contract my muscles in my pelvis and I get this tingly feeling and I do get orgasms that way…but it doesn’t feel right…plus when I tried to play with my clitoris. I get some tingly feeling in that but every time I try to continue touching it, my innner thighs twitch..Its weird…
Help me please!!!!!
Hi, Carol and Curious. I’m not a neurology buff, but I do explore this topic in some of my erotic short fiction. I can’t claim hard-science physiological insights; but if readers think they might enjoy sensuous stories of women who take erotic pleasure in peeing, then I humbly invite them to check out my publications. Thanks!