Comments on: Masturbating in SF http://magazine.goodvibes.com/2009/06/25/masturbating-in-sf/ Your Weekly Dose of Sex and Culture Fri, 20 Nov 2009 21:16:06 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Maika http://magazine.goodvibes.com/2009/06/25/masturbating-in-sf/comment-page-1/#comment-14860 Maika Sun, 28 Jun 2009 07:55:56 +0000 http://magazine.goodvibes.com/?p=2146#comment-14860 That was silly. Although it is true that It never occurred to me to fantasize about sex while walking through the streets of SF. Perhaps the smell of fresh urine is too much of a turn off. Not to mention just thinking about my physical safety. Being solicited for money by homeless folks also tends to dull the libido. There is the not so sexy wave of sadness for those folks, mixed with a healthy dose of guilt and revulsion at just how dirty folks can get living on the street. When I have money to share, I always fold the bill carefully so I can hand it to them without being touched. Because while I might want to help, I really don't want to touch them until they have had a good hot shower. That is why I find myself distracted from sex in SF. Maybe that doesn't bother men too much? I suspect I would have the same problem in NYC? It is true that I do not primp and preen myself hoping to be the object of some jizz shot across the sheets, or into a waiting sock or into tissue. There is little joy in it for me. In fact It is quite the opposite. I like having control over when desire is directed or as the case may be NOT directed at me. There is a great deal of power in choosing when and how and where you will turn someone on. I was just wondering if in your fantasy the desire is returned or if you ever thought about it? Is it just about what you want the person to look like and do? I wonder if there is some gender specificity in this? It is true that the fictional objects of my fantasies desire me very much. Do men share this or do they just focus on what the person looks like and the sexual act. Good night and happy wanking. I actually came to read he erotica in the magazine, but often get distracted by your articles. I guess I like to read other people's fantasies some times, it is enlightening. That was silly. Although it is true that It never occurred to me to fantasize about sex while walking through the streets of SF. Perhaps the smell of fresh urine is too much of a turn off. Not to mention just thinking about my physical safety. Being solicited for money by homeless folks also tends to dull the libido. There is the not so sexy wave of sadness for those folks, mixed with a healthy dose of guilt and revulsion at just how dirty folks can get living on the street. When I have money to share, I always fold the bill carefully so I can hand it to them without being touched. Because while I might want to help, I really don’t want to touch them until they have had a good hot shower. That is why I find myself distracted from sex in SF. Maybe that doesn’t bother men too much? I suspect I would have the same problem in NYC?

It is true that I do not primp and preen myself hoping to be the object of some jizz shot across the sheets, or into a waiting sock or into tissue. There is little joy in it for me. In fact It is quite the opposite. I like having control over when desire is directed or as the case may be NOT directed at me. There is a great deal of power in choosing when and how and where you will turn someone on.

I was just wondering if in your fantasy the desire is returned or if you ever thought about it? Is it just about what you want the person to look like and do? I wonder if there is some gender specificity in this? It is true that the fictional objects of my fantasies desire me very much. Do men share this or do they just focus on what the person looks like and the sexual act.

Good night and happy wanking. I actually came to read he erotica in the magazine, but often get distracted by your articles. I guess I like to read other people’s fantasies some times, it is enlightening.

]]> By: mr. m http://magazine.goodvibes.com/2009/06/25/masturbating-in-sf/comment-page-1/#comment-14857 mr. m Sat, 27 Jun 2009 03:34:40 +0000 http://magazine.goodvibes.com/?p=2146#comment-14857 You can find sexual and physical perfection anywhere you live. The right hips, the right breasts or lips or hands or teeth or tongue are enough to stimulate an innovative and unforgettable fantasy. Don't get so tied up in clothing, makeup, the superficial and oh-so-easily accessible signs of wealth. This isn't hippie, it's anthropology -- those responses are directly tied to primate evolutionary behavior -- preening, competition, and explicit signs that a potential sexual partner, even one you've never spoken with, is expending extra effort and calories to attract you to them. This may matter for life partners, but it sure as hell makes no difference when you're beating off. The reality is that we all look roughly the same naked and freshly scrubbed. That woman who won't smile? She wants to fuck you in the ass with her strapon dildo that she hasn't yet had the confidence to use. She wants to cheat on her husband with you. Just once. The butch chef on the train who won't give you the time of day? She'd love to make her regular lover watch and masturbate as you give her head. Nothing is out of bounds or politically incorrect in a sexual fantasy. Use it and get past it. You can find sexual and physical perfection anywhere you live. The right hips, the right breasts or lips or hands or teeth or tongue are enough to stimulate an innovative and unforgettable fantasy. Don’t get so tied up in clothing, makeup, the superficial and oh-so-easily accessible signs of wealth. This isn’t hippie, it’s anthropology — those responses are directly tied to primate evolutionary behavior — preening, competition, and explicit signs that a potential sexual partner, even one you’ve never spoken with, is expending extra effort and calories to attract you to them. This may matter for life partners, but it sure as hell makes no difference when you’re beating off.

The reality is that we all look roughly the same naked and freshly scrubbed.

That woman who won’t smile? She wants to fuck you in the ass with her strapon dildo that she hasn’t yet had the confidence to use. She wants to cheat on her husband with you. Just once.

The butch chef on the train who won’t give you the time of day? She’d love to make her regular lover watch and masturbate as you give her head.

Nothing is out of bounds or politically incorrect in a sexual fantasy. Use it and get past it.

]]> By: blackie http://magazine.goodvibes.com/2009/06/25/masturbating-in-sf/comment-page-1/#comment-14852 blackie Thu, 25 Jun 2009 19:10:41 +0000 http://magazine.goodvibes.com/?p=2146#comment-14852 Try drinkin' some Shasta. works for me ;) Try drinkin’ some Shasta. works for me ;)

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