Sex Questions from the Twittersphere: Is Queefing Natural?
By Dr. Carol Queen • Apr 8th, 2009 • Category: Blog, Carol QueenQuestion:
The general attitude of ppl towards ‘queefing’ seems negative to me.. is it normal? Can you stop it or make it quieter? I do when I cum.. =/
Queefing (in case anyone reading this is unfamiliar with the slang) = vaginal farting, or more precisely expelling air from the vagina in such a way that it makes a sound. (They sometimes used to be called “varts.”) And the reasons why people might react to them negatively are mainly twofold: 1, they’re not used to them, the queef is unexpected and throws off the concentration, erotic focus, fantasy world, etc., of the person reacting; and 2, some people have still not gotten over the urge to laugh and point at farts.
In either case: Queefing is a perfectly natural response to enough vaginal action that air, as well as whatever other relevant body parts or toys, enters the vagina, and is subsequently expelled. I’m not sure it happens to everyone who engages in penetrative vaginal play… but it’s very common, common enough to have not one cute moniker but two! I’m guessing the fact that it happens during your orgasm means your PC muscles, and hence your orgasmic contractions, are strong. To lessen it might mean a milder contraction (and that’d only happen if your PC muscles lost tone), and a milder contraction = a milder orgasm. So if you want my advice, learn to love it, and if a partner says anything, tell them it’s your vagina shouting with joy.
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Dr. Carol Queen >> Carol Queen is a writer, speaker, educator and activist with a doctorate in sexology. First as an organizer in the lesbian/gay community, where she helped found one of the first gay youth groups in the United States, and later in the emerging international bisexual community, as a sex worker and a practitioner of alternative sexualities, she typically teaches and writes from her own experience and that of her communities even as she references academic thought on these subjects. See her website: www.carolqueen.com.
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