Make Love Not Porn… sort of…
By Kuono • Feb 4th, 2009 • Category: BlogOkay so we all know the stereotypically BAD porn — it’s very straight, formulaic, the woman featured is always a strange version of hyper femininity with surgically enhanced breasts, and sometimes more. We know that porn is a fantasy, though there’s also some videos (many of which Good Vibrations carries) which disproves the notion that all porn is ‘bad’. From documentary porn which features real life couples having very real sex, to titles that represent authentic queer sex, to features and all-sex, no-plot versions which actually focus on female pleasure. We also have sex educational videos (including BDSM) which focus on sexual technique as well as entertainment and cinematic value. So, there’s something to see there.
And of course there’s the thought that even if porn is “Bad” there’s a degree of fantasy that can arouse anyone regardless of sexual and gender identity.
With that in mind, I stumbled across a site called “Make Love Not Porn”. I have many friends who are porn professionals who work with great companies and they’re actually making love on the set when they have sex in the films. So I was curious. Take a look at some of the topics that come up, and ponder how true they really are. IS is a lot easier for a guy to get turned on by a girl going straight for his cock? Are most of the questions on this site heteronormative? Go on over there, comment, share your own ideas, and spread the conversation about what porn is to you, how it can be used to arouse, what sex is to you, etc… This website is a great conversation starter and an interactive way to explore sex!
Kuono >> Magazine Editor, Web Producer at GoodVibes.com and manager of the Good Vibrations Affiliate Program (GVAffiliates.com). Okay, back to work.
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Well, I must be a porn chick, because going straight for my pleasure zone gets me wet and ready within five minutes and then I last for the rest of the day. I think it’s a bit narrow to exclude the porn scenario from women’s sexuality because, as I just testified, there ARE women for whom that works and who prefer that approach to sex. What’s important is knowing what your lover wants just asking them and exploring their body (ies) and reading responses. That applies whether you’ve known them for a few minutes or for several years.
Not that the so-called “real world” way doesn’t work for me, because it does. I’m a very sexual and sensual woman and there’s not just one pathway to my lust and pleasure.