The Sexual Rebirth of Menopause
By Evie • Dec 8th, 2008 • Category: BlogSamantha Jones, from Sex and the City, once said with total angst, when she thought she was going through the change “I’m day old bread!” it was the script writers trying to be funny, but unfortunately, there are still a lot of men and women who have these thoughts about a time in our lives that is a very life changing and empowering time for us. We are at this stage in our lives where we can start taking care of other people and start taking care of ourselves. We will no longer have to worry about going on vacation, being in our romantic hotel room and finding out we should have packed our tampons. No more cramps (I haven’t had any for almost a year), no more PMS-I have 30-31 days of feeling like myself. And no longer have to be on birth control. I love that part. If all goes well, I will be able to throw out our condoms (maybe I will fill each one up with water and drop them off on the roof of the Pyramid building as part of my liberation!).
I have been Perimenopausal (the hardest part of Menopause for a lot of women) since I was 43. I don’t mind sharing that I am 50. I am excited and pleased that I still have my good health. I can still do light hiking, still love to dance to a good song (sometimes when I am working in my GV store) and still feel sexy. It is all part of recognizing what my body needs and taking precious care of it. When I started going through Peri-menopause, I realized i didn’t feel as sexually aroused as in my 30’s. I was having irregular periods, sometims light, sometimes it was like a pipe breaking and the flood would come. I was having a week of being myself and 3 weeks of feeling like i was linda blair in “The Exorcist”. I was extremely anxious, hyper-sensitive. I would hear things that weren’t being said. Luckily my co-workers and my husband was extremely patient.
I started doing research on what my symptoms and found out I was Perimenopausal. There is a book by Christiane Northrup M.D. called The Wisdom of Menopause, that addressed the physical, mental and emotional changes that were going on in my body and what to do to manage my own journey. Because I choose to go through a more holistic approach to my health care, I liked her advice. And because she is a doctor, she addressed these issues from a medical standpoint also. Unforutuanately, she says that most MDs don’t really know how to address the emotional side of what we are going through, but if you research enough or get recomendations from your friends, you can find a doctor who can be a co-creator in your new journey of your Sexual Rebirth.
You may wonder why I call menopause a Sexual Rebirth. Well, frankly, when your body starts changing, your hormone levels and your body go through physical changes, you also start to look at your Sexuality a different way also. When you go through Menopause you are now focusing not on giving birth to human childeren but to your sexuality. It is your new creation. When you know what to do to take care of the various stages you and your relationship goes through. You are building a new foundation. In the months to come I will talk about the experiences I have had and other women experiences and how we are all getting through it and feeling more sexy, desireable and empowered. I would like to hear any issues you are struggling with so I can be guided on what you would like me to focus on. I know that journey may be the same as someone else, but I also know we are all unique and what I struggle with may be different for others.
It is important to realize first that all menopause means is “The end of your monthly period” it doesn’t mean you now have to throw out your sexual self, now is the time to re invent yourself.
