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From Good Vibrations Info Desk: Sexual Health/Product Info

It is easy to fall in love with your favorite sex toys (we certainly do!), but when another person enters the picture it can seem awkward to find a place for both your toy and your partner in the same bedroom. While we are the first to say that sex toys are great for single play, there is no reason why your toy box has to stay locked up every time your lover comes over. After all, what better way to show your partner some affection than by introducing them to your favorite toys? Of course, just like introducing any aspect of sexuality into your bedroom, sensitivity, openness, and a good amount of adventure are required…so grab some batteries and call your sweetie because by the time you’re done reading these hot tips, you won’t want to keep them apart a minute longer.

Getting Ready

In order to figure out what toys will work best with you and your partner, it’s important to talk about what kind of sensations you are both interested in feeling, and what levels of involvement you are comfortable with. Whether that means vibrations, feelings of fullness (like from a dildo or butt plug), G-Spot or prostate stimulation, anal play or any combination of the above, figuring out the physics is your first step to finding a toy/toys that will be satisfying for everyone. Certain toys might be great for you, but don’t hold much interest for your partner and vice versa. The best advice we have for this is to try and be open minded, talk to your partner about what they want to try and see if you can find a compromise or a way to try the experience that will be comfortable for both of you.

This is also a good time to talk about logistics. For example, do you want a toy that you or your partner will need to hold or do your prefer hands-free playthings that will keep your fingers ready for other activities. Once you have narrowed down the options it will be easier to pick out a toy that will be satisfying for everyone, and don’t forget, our friendly SESAs at our retail stores and in the Call Center are here to help!

Safety First

As with any of our toys, we always strongly suggest keeping your toy clean between uses. And, if you are sharing it with another person, use a condom each time, and for each person. This not only helps make clean-up easier (changing a condom takes much less time than washing or boiling a sex toy), but it also prevents bacteria from spreading from person to person or becoming ingrained into your toy’s material (if it is porous or semi-porous). It is also important to change the condoms on your toy if it will be used both anally and vaginally since transporting bacteria from an anus to a vagina can cause infections and other health concerns.

Suggestions and Toy

For Hands On Action: Larger vibrators like the Hitachi, with a handle long enough to grab onto, can be great for reaching certain spots (like the clitoris) but can also become heavy or burdensome because of their size, or limiting due to their cord. If you want something a bit more compact you might want to opt for a more portable, battery operated vibrator like the C-Spot, Lucky 7 vibe or the Pearl Drop, which are less awkward to hold onto and focus with pinpoint accuracy on sensitive spots like the nipples, the perineum, clitoris, or anywhere you’d like some extra stimulation.

Fun with Fingers: Let your fingers do the walking with a Fukuoku 9000 that actually transforms your fingers into powerful little vibrators. Lightweight and discreet, the Fukuoku is great for adding stimulation to one spot or sending waves of pleasure as your fingers glide over your partner’s body (or your own). You can also slip the Neptune Ring Vibe around your finger and you’ll never have to worry about dropping it when things get slippery.

For When Your Hands are Tied: Some toys are always great for “no hands” play with or without a partner. Butt plugs like the Aneros, Progasm and Pandora stay in place on their own (and the Aneros and Progasm are great for hands-free prostate fun). And don’t forget about the wearable vibrators like the Venus Butterfly, the Daring Dolphin and the Neptune Ring Vibe, all of which keep your hands free for other purposes. If you want simultaneous vaginal and anal play, the Ménage à Trois Harness Kit works with either with two dildos or a dildo and a penis.

Easy On, Easy Off: Cock rings are always great for some extra stamina or stimulation (especially when combined with a small vibrator), but if you’ve never used one before, start with something that you can easily put on and take off like the Perfect Pair Ring, or an inexpensive and disposable alternative like the Screaming O Vibrating Ring. The Hands Free Cyber Ring, which can stretch to fit around a dildo or a penis, also comes equipped with nubs for clitoral stimulation, a small probe for perineum or anus play, and a small vibrator for great all-around pleasure. Or if you want extra action for the clitoris without a vibrator, check out the Raspberry Ring, which gives a little extra oomph.

Waterworks: For those of you who enjoy taking your romps into the bath or shower, there are plenty of waterproof toys ready and willing to go along with you. The Aqua Rabbit, C-Spot, Pearl Drop along with many of our other vibrators (and some cock rings as well) are waterproof. If you are looking for a discreet bath time toy that will easily blend in, pick up a I Rub My Duckie, with its nostalgic exterior and powerful vibrations, this duckie might keep you and your partner in the tub way past bedtime. And don’t forget the silicone lubricants, such as Wet Platinum, Pink and Pjur, which won’t wash away like water-based lubricants do.

Remember, sex is supposed to be fun. Incorporating toys into partner sex is a great way to keep things exciting, explore your sexuality, and just have a great time. Hopefully these tips have given you and your partner a few good ideas to get started with…so talk, plan, play and explore!