Good Vibrations Magazine

Geez!! Long time no blog! What the heck is wrong with me?? Wow, sometimes running a sexy store during Valentines Day, playing in 3 musical projects, tattooing part time and freaking out on my new cable tv takes up a wee bit of time. Call the Wambulance, cause I ain’t taking my excuses anymore. It’s time to tell the people, get it together and BLOG for heck’s sake!

On a recent venture out of town to do a mini tour with my band , “T&A” http://myspace.com/tracyandangelx, I remembered that us folks in da big city live in a bubble. I know that I already have agknowledged that in my life, but it was high time I and my fellow bands on tour, to get it into our heads that we weren’t in Kansas anymore. Heck, really it seemed we went to Kansas…wait..pardon me folks, but there is my city miopic, predigious thinking talking; how do I know what folks are like in Kansas? I live in the Bay Area Bubble!!

I digress and I warn, with so much to say, it has been a while, that it will take me a sec. or much more, to get to the point.

In my old place of residence, Modesto, there was a club for all folks of alternative nature to hang out, play shows have art receptions what have you. Thinking that this would be an opening and welcome atmosphere, we booked the show there, even dispite warnings from our promoter. He warned us “it’s a gay bar”.
Well sweet! That means they are opening minded right? In a town where it’s not as diverse as Frisco, all folks left of the mainstream can ban together.At least that’s what we did when I went to high school there.
I could spread the word of GV, which I often do during performances when I can ( all go into that another time, another blog).
What I took to be a homophobic concern turned out to not be as I had assumed. I admit, I wrongly assumed that and I also wrongly assumed, just because a place is gay friendly, that it would be open to us big city mouse gays.
Not so. My mission fell on deaf ears. No one showed except for some hipsters, who were guests of the bartender, (note to us Mission District hipsters : there are folks even more hip then you! .. well at least in their attitude) and a very angry woman who decided to take our cover charge request out on a member of a band we toured with, calling him every expletive in the book because he was male. She sounded like that guy in “DeadWood”
Sheesh! Not to mention, he was covering the door for the door person who was late!

This could be a lesson in customer service, as in how the bar manager took care of the bashing on our metro male. (by allowing it to happen, letting the person in afterward, and guilt tripping us for leaving)

This could be a lesson for sure on Sex-Positivity (never assuming but applauding people’s choices)
and number one: Remember that each city, each place, and each person is unique.

It doesn’t help anyone to assume things about people.Perhaps we could have questioned our promoter and find out more information about the club before we decided to trek all the way out there for a show. We could have done our research and seen if there were other bands that had played there. A little too late, I asked other bands at the other venues what there take on the place was. It was much the same. Just because a place is labeled something, it isn’t safe to assume that it is a place that will give me the service I’d expect. Research, my favourite thing to do and I blew it.

To draw the parallel:
The seedy sex toy store. Well, as you may have guess by our presence, sex toy stores are not all the same.
How do we know? Cause well …we’re here. Good Vibes. You have options in case the seediness doesn’t get your “forbidden territory” fetish rolling and you have in depth questions about products. We have been here 30 years providing unassuming service since “coming out” of the Sexual Revolution. We like to ask our customers open ended question to draw out what you, as a person, not as a classification, need. You can tell us what you feel and we can help you find what you would like and not tell you what we would assume you need.
That’s pretty cool! We welcome all types, genders, persuations and the rainbow that is the human spectrum. Heck that’s what we are.

Thanks Modesto for reminding me of just how important that is.

Coming real soon…tips for folks with disabilitys. Don’t “dis” our abilities! This differently -abled girl speaks out on sex tips she learned from her also differently abled Mom.