Good Vibrations Magazine

Hello out there and welcome to this month’s Call Center Confessions!
Finally, spring has arrived, but it’s a little hard to tell here in San Francisco-we’ve had more than enough March and April showers to bring beautiful May flowers. The gloomy days haven’t stopped the birds and the bees from keeping busy, however, or folks from writing in with their tantalizing Call Center Confessions. And so, here we go…!

Hi. I am writing with a question that I hope you will put in the magazine. I am a 35 year-old, heterosexual, happily-married man with a delightful young daughter. Off and on, starting in high school, I’ve worn women’s panties, really just for masturbation. The first time I was about 16. Late at night, I snuck down into the laundry, and grabbed a pair of my sister’s panties. I took them to my room, modeled them for myself, and masturbated. This happened a few times in college, when my girlfriend would be away or out of town, I would parade around the house in her undies before masturbating. Now, on occasion, I do this with my wife’s panties. It seems like this interest is becoming more driven. The other day, I bought a pair for myself. My wife was gone at work for the day, so I wore them the whole day. It felt great! In fact, I want to get some more. I hate to say it, but I like wearing women’s panties! (I hate to say it, but I am not ashamed.) My question now is three-fold: First-what do you think of this? Is it normal? Common? Second-where can I find some more information? A like-minded community? And lastly-my wife doesn’t know about any of this. How do you suggest I bring it up with her?
Signed, a Panty-Loving Guy

Hi Panty-Loving Guy;
Thanks for writing to us with your Call Center Confession! This is a super-good question and one we get asked a lot by men who are interested in exploring their “inner girl”. There is so much shame around what is considered to be “taboo” by our culture, when in reality, there is nothing wrong or shameful about cross-dressing. Everyone wants to feel sexy and attractive, and if you feel sexy wearing satiny panties and lacy bras, do it! You can mix and match! Wear your lacy bra with your jockey briefs, or how about the Mango Packer under your new pantsuit at the corporate meeting with the CEO! Everyone can have fun with cross-dressing! There are resources galore for like-minded folks on the internet. Molly and I love www.michaelsalem.com -they have been in business for over 35 years and have everything for your inner girl’s coming-out party. It can be tricky trying to navigate shopping for yourself in the women’s department at the mall, but have no fear!

With Miss Vera’s Cross-Dress for Success and Miss Vera’s Finishing School for Boys Who Want to Be Girls (available on Amazon.com or your local bookstore), you will learn EVERYTHING a girl needs to know about looking natural with your new charms. Miss Veronica Vera, who authors both titles, gives you tools and techniques with an extensive resource guide to help you on your way to being the glamour girl you’ve always wanted to be!

Bringing up cross-dressing with a mate can be challenging but these waters can be navigated with a little forethought. Often the way something is put forward to a partner will decide how the partner will feel about the issue. If you treat your cross-dressing as something shameful and guilty, chances are high your partner will take those feelings on for herself. If you express cross-dressing as normal and fun, your partner would likely see this new idea in the same light. You might be able to gauge the reaction of your wife by how she reacted in the past during challenging times in your relationship. Were you able to work through those times and come out on the other side feeling closer and stronger as a couple? It is very important to express to your wife that she is loved and needed by you. That she is special and cherished in your relationship. Open communication will be the grease that allows the wheel to turn freely, so to speak. Remember, this is all very exciting for you-your wife might take a little more time to be as excited as you are about openly exploring your needs. Try to not get so caught up in yourself that she becomes invisible, she needs to be included and you need to really focus on her and how her emotions are affecting her. You might want to steer away from wearing your wife’s undergarments and clothing. Women notice when their undies are stretched out of shape, so buying your own pretty things is a great way for both of you to have intimate apparel of your own! You might find our wonderful book, When Someone You Love Is Kinky a great resource for ways to bring up this interest to your wife. The book suggests ways for partners of folks who enjoy “less-traditional” lifestyles to better understand their partners, helps dispels myths and helps both people learn how to understand each other. Written with personal testimonies, this book is a right-on-the-spot guide you both would find useful.

You’re not alone out there Panty-Loving Guy, there are lots of like-minded folks who cross-dress for everyday wear, special occasions, bedroom games, for fun or just because they CAN! Now if we could all only find the perfect little black dress…