Good Vibrations Magazine

A cock in bondage: trussed up in rope, rock hard, bloated within the coils of fiber. One of two things happens when a man sees his first picture of cock and ball torture — either his nuts head for the hills of his abdominal cavity or he gets one hell of a twitch in his pants.

I want to speak to those of you who twitched. Especially those of you who dream about CBT, but haven’t yet screwed up the courage to try it.

First, let me assure you: The T word doesn’t have to stand for torture. It can represent a range of play — from teasing to torment to torture — and you don’t have to be a Bob Flanagan emulator to become a CBT aficionado. Rather than worry about the label, focus on experimentation and discover what you do and don’t like.

Start by trying out sensation play. Look for things you can brush or rub against your cock. How about an extra-fine hairbrush, soft as silk? Perhaps a feather duster? A small scrub brush? (Think kitchen gadgets.)

Rub each item over your cock and balls, along your inner thighs. Blindfold yourself and repeat the process. You’ll probably notice your sense of touch is heightened and sensitized. And if you think that’s cool, imagine what being under the grip of a willing partner must be like. I’ve seen a hard cock quiver and throb at the mere touch of a sharp fingernail — and it’s something to savor.

If you find that these items impart too little sensation, let me offer a few harder-edged products:

• A hollowed-out, cylindrical loofa sponge. Get it good and wet, and slip it over your cock. Like how it feels? Yes? Try masturbating with it.
• Rubber bands stretched tight over your cock and balls. Not only is the constriction delightful, but you can test your capacity for pain by snapping them in torturous delight. And let’s not forget tiny whips and spatulas while we’re at it.
• Dental tools, the kind a hygienist uses to scrape plaque from your teeth. Carefully drag those sharp little surfaces over your genitals. Poke lightly if you like, but be careful; you don’t want to draw blood.

Also, cock spanking is a time-honored perversion. Don’t overlook it.

Another favorite: Rope bondage. In times past, enthusiasts preferred and praised cotton rope but pure cotton rope has become difficult to find. Today’s cotton rope often has a cotton exterior but is reinforced from within by strands of very unforgiving materials. Go with nylon rope. Of, if you’d like a more abrasive fiber, try hemp.

Wrap the rope around your cock, and around your ball sac. Use the rope to stretch your sac as far as feels comfortable — a little discomfort is okay, but remember that the sensations will become more intense as time passes. Even separate your balls with it. And, for prick’s sake, experiment with varying degrees of tight bondage. Remember that bulging cock picture I mentioned? That cock was hard and loving it because it was tied up good and tight.

Skin discoloration will occur when you truss the boys up tight, but this kind of blue balls is perfectly fine, though not for more than 10 minutes at a time. Focus on your balls’ skin temperature rather than color. When they’re cool to the touch, it’s time to free them.

Which leads us to cock and ball harnesses. There’s nothing quite like a man struggling with the restraint of a choice cock harness, but one thing I’ve learned is that neither men nor cock and ball harnesses are created equal. That means, in most places that you’ll buy your gear, it’s a case of “one size fits most.” Buy toys for both flaccid and hard states. It’s grand to play with a cock that can’t get hard or with a cock that can’t go soft. Actually, it’s grand to play with a man who’s suffering in either direction. Yum.

You’ve likely noticed that my advice so far sounds like a do-it-yourself project. Well, it is. You see, my best experiences as a top have happened with men who also did cock and ball stuff to themselves. They incorporated it into their masturbation practices and, quite frankly, they were better partners for it. They knew what they liked, they knew what their bodies could take, and they were adventurous, enthusiastic partners.

One gentleman and I used to play via quick e-mail exchanges. He’d send me a short post, detailing, for example, the number of clothespins his dick sported and asking for my guidance. I’d fire back some wickedly playful instructions — as well as a demand for a full account of his resulting masturbation. All in all, we shared some deliciously naughty and furtive moments, thanks in large part to his self-styled, self-pleasure initiative.

Of course, there was that one e-mail I received from him; “I’ve got rubber bands all over my cock and balls. It’s hard and purple,” it said. My answer wasn’t quite as sexy, I’m afraid. “Gee,” I wrote, “I hope it didn’t fall off. I’ve been away on vacation for the last two weeks.”

Honestly, you won’t ruin yourself for that dream mistress or master. Believe me, I know. The man whom I now lovingly torment spent years self-experimenting, and when we met over his cock at a play party, he was quite the capable bottom. Turns out, he loved the harshest thing I used on him — a metal-bristled brush, no bigger than a toothbrush — and that was all it took. We’ve been together ever since.

Will you find endless delights and rewards in cock and ball play? Or the top of your dreams? Who’s to say, really? But don’t let that stop you from experimenting and developing your own CBT interests and repertoire. To thine own self be true. Especially if it requires a cock harness or a loofa sponge.