Good Vibrations Magazine

As a bisexual woman I’ve given and gotten my fair share of girl-head. I’ve had some snatch sucking that has made me scream with rapture and some that has kept me watching the clock. So listen up girls and boys, I’m going to share my tricks of the tongue and teach you how to turn the woman in your life, or the woman of that night, into a screaming, satisfied she-devil.

Oral sex is one of the best things you can do for a woman. It can be a sure-fire ride to orgasm. In fact, some women come best from being eaten. Guys, if you give good head, you’ll be a better lover. Gals, well, you know what I mean.

Feel Comfortable

If you don’t know your way around a pussy here’s a quick primer: outer lips (least sensitive), inner lips (more sensitive), and the clitoris (very sensitive). The clit is the hooded nub where the two inner lips join — the key to orgasm.

Get physically comfortable. Don’t expect her to be clawing out your hair immediately; some women can take an hour or more to get there. Have her lie down with her legs spread and you between them. You should be able to look into her eyes while getting your tongue and fingers all the way inside. Putting a couple of pillows under her ass may help you avoid getting a crick in your neck. Make sure none of your weight is on her and vice versa. Like any good Girl, or Boy, Scout: be prepared.

Like any other sexual act, communication is key. If you think she’s special then tell her so. Expressing how beautiful you find her and helping her let down her guard may help you both relax. Relaxation is one of the keys to a successful orgasm. And don’t be afraid to ask her what she likes — you may even get lucky with a surprise masturbation show.

Here’s a tip for all you impatient folk: Don’t head straight for the clit. It’s extremely sensitive, even pain causing, so work your way up to it. As she gets more aroused, she’ll get less sensitive. Be sexy. Tease her. This is sex, not work — you have all the time in the world. Build excitement: Lick and kiss your way from the inner thigh to home plate.

The Act

Breathe on her muff, brushing your lips lightly over her pussy. But don’t tease long enough to irritate — if she’s pushing on your head to get you moving then pay attention. Gently open her outer lips with your fingers and lick the inside. Softly run your tongue from her cunt to her clit. Now fuck her cunt with your tongue, circling the tip. While this usually feels good it may not be earth-shattering. I can’t stress enough that every woman is different and must be treated accordingly. Ask, ask, and ask again. “Does this feel good?” is never a stupid question.

So lap again — from the cunt to the clit. Make your tongue pointed and stiff, then head for the kill. Gently flick her love button. If you’re causing discomfort, soften your tongue and roam around, but keep coming back to her clit. There is nothing more annoying than someone who is almost on the right spot. If she’s in ecstasy then don’t relieve the building pressure. Because now it’s time for the…

Fingers

Fingers are essential. Start slowly with one while sucking on her nub. Take the exposed clit into your mouth, gently sucking while flicking your tongue over and around it. Unless she asks you to, don’t bite. Those screams aren’t always from pleasure. On the other hand, you don’t have to wait for her to ask you, again, feel free to keep checking in — open communication is always the best policy.

It’s time for another finger. If she likes to feel full she’ll ask for more. Pull them in and out or wiggle them around. One trick is to hold your hand so your palm is facing the front of her body, with two fingers inside. Make a motion like you are rapidly waving hello, continually sucking on that clit.

The Climax

When she’s ready to come, hold on. If she’s on the verge of climax, don’t move away from her clit. Unless you want to tease or torture her, that’s just cruel.

When her orgasm hits she might grab your hair, push your head, twitch, spasm, and tighten her legs until your ears ring. Go until she tells you to stop.

What if she doesn’t come? If this is someone you just met or haven’t had much sex with, she may not feel comfortable enough. An orgasm puts you in a vulnerable state. When I first started having sex I was afraid let myself let go; I thought I would piss on my lover’s face or something equally embarrassing. I got over it, but some women just can’t come. You may want to ask her if there’s something different or more you can do. If not, that’s okay. If it feels like something should be said then let her know that you understand, in a sincere and considerate way. If she doesn’t feel like talking to you then don’t push it. Just be there when she’s ready.

As you get more comfortable, try new techniques — draw out the alphabet, look for her G-spot. Variety is the spice of life but there is something to be said for the tried and true. In short, pay attention to what works.

You’re now a queen or king of cunnilingus. Pat yourself on the back and stock up on those dams.